Breaking up with somebody can be very difficult, especially if you care about the person enough. But when you’ve decided to move on, the best thing to do is to break up with that person sooner rather than later.
The longer you wait, the worse it will get for both parties. Besides, think about it from their perspective, do you really want them to be with a person that doesn’t really want to be with them anymore? It isn’t fair to them, and to be honest, you aren’t being fair to yourself either.
Timing Is Key
However, you need to pick the appropriate time to break up with a person.
Avoid breaking up with a person during the holidays, anniversaries, or any sort of special occasion.
You don’t want to be remembered for being insensitive, so pick and choose wisely.
So do it at your place (or theirs). Do it somewhere where they can let out their emotions (if any) freely and without inhibition.
Do It In Person!
And for goodness sakes, break up with this person in person. Don’t do it through phone, text, or e-mail. Trust me when I say that you want to cause the least amount of unneeded drama from this experience.
So as much as you don’t want to see this person and break their heart, it’s the right thing to do and he or she will be better off.
You’ll also want to break things off appropriately. Don’t look happy. Don’t laugh. Don’t look too stoic either. Try as much as possible to look like you care deeply about him or her, and make sure that you give off the impression that this decision is for the best for both of you.
Let Them Absorb It
Give them time to soak in the information. Don’t just tell them that you’re dumping them and then just run away. Breaking up with someone should take awhile — it isn’t pleasant, but it needs to be done with care.
After you break up with this person, don’t contact them. If you really care about this person, you’ll do everything you can to get over you. This is the whole goal! It’s alright to say that you want to be friends after the breakup, but you need to give it time. Move on.
It’s very likely that after the breakup, your ex will try and contact you and get you back. This is normal and it’s a coping mechanism that human beings have to deal with the hardships of loss.
Be civil with him or her, but don’t go out of your way to talk to them, but don’t be cold either. Tell him or her that you’re busy and that you have very little time.
Finally, for the first little while, keep your dating of new people to yourself. Don’t announce to the world that you’re dating somebody else right away.
Keep it quiet! You don’t want to push your ex’s buttons — this will only cause more problems.