Ways To Make Your Ex Jealous

Whether you want your ex back or not, sometimes it’s kind of nice just to make him or her a little jealous.

Inciting jealousy can be easy and a harmless way to let your ex know that they’re missing out!

Here are several things you can do right now that will not only make your ex jealous, but make you happy in the process!

woman getting fit to make her ex jealous1.) Get fit and be active!

Yes, when your ex sees your new body, he or she is going to go green with envy or get horribly turned on. Either way, this is a good thing! Doing this is good for a multitude of reasons. If you’ve recently got out of the relationship and you’re feeling a little down, exercise and fitness is proven to increase the amount of dopamine and serotonin in your brain — these chemicals in your brain are responsible for your mood. It’s scientifically proven to make you feel happier.

So not only will you look good (and who doesn’t want to look good?), you’ll also feel amazing too. It’s a win-win.  [RELATED:  How To Get Your Ex Back]

2.) Date, date, and date some more.

Look, the laws of jealousy are very simple. Make your ex see you experiencing amazing things. That’s pretty much it.

The more you date, the more your ex will think, Hey, I used to date this really high-quality individual. Why on Earth did I dump him/her?  [RELATED: How To Pickup Girls – The Scientific Method Of Doing It!]

So go out on dates. I’m not saying you should sleep with the whole entire world, but make it known that you are highly sought after and that members of the opposite sex want you. In the dating world, this is what we call pre-selection. Being wanted is a desirable to the opposite sex. So mingle! Join a club. Go out with your friends to a club. Just get out of your comfort zone and meet people and don’t let anything (especially yourself) stop you.

Facebook is a great way to induce some jealousy3.) Use social media to your advantage.

Yeah, it’s no secret here…

Your ex is going to visit your Facebook profile, no matter what. Unless your relationship ended so poorly that he or she deleted you, then you should have absolutely no problem making your ex jealous.

So post pictures of you doing really fun things like snowboarding, bungie jumping, or whatever. Go out with friends and take pictures. Take pictures of yourself with really good looking members of the opposite sex. Do everything you can to convey to the world that you love life and, most importantly, that you’re happy. [RELATED: Does My Ex Want Me Back?]

4.) Talk to mutual friends.

Yes, if you two share any mutual friends, then you can definitely use this as a tool. So tell your mutual friend about all the crazy adventures you’ve been going on. Tell them about all the people you’ve been dating (and most importantly, tell about all the people that are clawing, tooth and nail, to date you). 

Look, I know this sounds like a lot of manipulation, and maybe you feel fake and disingenuous doing these acts, but if you really want to make your ex jealous, then you should definitely heed this advice.

Once you tell your mutual friends about all these positive experiences, chances are they’ll “tattletale” and run to your ex and tell him or her about the news. People love to gossip. So you might as well make use of this, right?

working hard to keep your mind off your ex5.) Get ahead in your job.

Still can’t keep your mind off the relationship? Still thinking about it day and night? There’s no better time to channel all that energy into something useful and productive for yourself.

Is there anything you can do at your job that will help you get ahead? Maybe take on another project. Maybe doing something a little extra in school. Do whatever you can to use that negative energy and transform it into something that will be useful for you down the road. Moping and thinking about your ex isn’t going to get you anywhere 2 or 3 years down the road. But working harder at your job? I guarantee you that you’ll be thanking yourself a month down from now.  [RELATED: 10 Things You Should Never Say To Your Ex]

Plus, you’ll be making your ex jealous in the process.

So listen — most of what you’ve learned today can be summed up quite simply; if you want to make your ex jealous, then you’re going to have to focus more on yourself than anything else.

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About Brad Browning

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  1. Xandra
    Xandra says:

    Sooo, I broke up with my ex 3 months ago but we’ve been best friends since then. I started being cold to him for some reason and I treated him horribly and he let me until a few weeks ago, he got fed up and said that he doesn’t want to be friends with me anymore. We had a big fight which led to me begging for his forgiveness the day after. A few days after that, I’ve begged him to take me back and I keep confronting him whenever he talks to this girl (we all go to school together). A lot has happened since then. My mom got involved, a few friends as well and etc. This week he decided to be friends with me again but not like before. I told him I’m still going to fight for him because we promised but he said he feels nothing for me. I stopped contacting him but then he started talking to me and I broke. I asked him again what he wants and again, he responded with “I just see you as a friend.” I stopped replying but now he keeps messaging me. I really want him back but I don’t know what to do. I’m in a really complicated situation and I’m not sure if no contact will work for me.

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  2. Jared
    Jared says:

    I’ve been in NC for about 25 days now, it was a non violent breakup, she just lost the attraction/feelings and wanted out after 3 years. She told me to go out and do what I wanted in life. I obviously want her back more than ever, so I improved my life, got healthier, changed my looks a little, she didn’t contact me for about 3 weeks, so i posted a picture of a pretty attractive chick on the back of my bike with me on Facebook, trying to spark a little jealousy, my ex instantly blew up and was bashful saying she’s cutting all ties with me and how she thought I was a decent person and not a piece of s##t and said see ya later. I didn’t respond, it’s been about a week, I know she must be in pain from that picture, but I need advice on the next step, I’m clueless, thanks a lot man.

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    • Brad Browning
      Brad Browning says:

      Hey, man. Sorry to hear about the breakup. Continue to cut off contact until you reach the 30-day mark. Let her be jealous and come to her senses. You’re on the right track not to go with her drama, though, so continue ignoring her til’ you reach the 30-day mark, okay? It’s complicated to explain all the steps here and it’s all 130+ pages, so read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you’ll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, etc. since good timing is essential. Good luck!

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  3. Abdo
    Abdo says:

    Hey ! I broke up with my boyfriend 4 months ago .. and i can’t stop thinking about him since the breakup .. his reason that he is wild and I’m too nice .. we still talking but he gives me the cold shoulder every time .. also he is not answering my calls actually he reject them .. i was in his birthday last week. I talked to him and he said he doesn’t want any relationship right now .. and in the end of the weekend he talked to me and we had sex at my place .. he is teenage but have big way of thinking .. and I’m sure that he still loves me .. but he is hiding his feelings, what should i do ?

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    • Brad Browning
      Brad Browning says:

      Hello Abdo, sorry to hear you’re going through this. What’s happening here is the more he pulls away, the more you love to chase — this is a recipe for disaster, to be honest. His non-committal behaviour is alarming enough and I’m afraid the best he can give you at this point is a friends with benefit to situation. Don’t expect things to get into a stage where he commits if you continue to do what you’re doing now. My suggestion is to become less available to him and shift the power to where he chases you. He can’t chase you if he always do it, so give him a chance to do so, okay? 🙂 Start by letting him miss you, so cut off contact for around a month. Watch this: How to Make Your Ex Miss You. Good luck!

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  4. Arceus
    Arceus says:

    Hi Brad,
    I’ve been contemplating on wither I should do the No-Contact period or to avoid it, you see my situation is very unique on it self. awhile ago I had an argument with my girlfriend that was driven by my feelings of suffocation as I called it, she was very clingy and controlling, she just wanted me all to her self, so I started pushing her away and into other guys arms, Infact she once asked me to go out with her and I told bluntly I don’t feel like it, i’d rather stay home and read comics -yes I said that and I realize now just how stupid that is- why don’t you go with one of your other friends, which pushed her into hanging with other guys and other friends when I would ask her to hang with me, that went on for 2-3 months until I got fed up and broke it off with her 2 months to day ago, 2 weeks after that I contacted her and told her I realized my mistake and I would like nothing more than to get her back but her answer was i’m sorry but my heart is with someone else now, it was that friend that was there for her when I wasn’t, me and her were together for 4 years, we were so serious I tattooed her name on my shoulder as a gift for her and on top of all of that we have already had talked about marriage to the point where both our families got involved and supported our decision, so yeah we were as serious as we ever get so I started watching your videos and Clay Andrews videos and newsletter and anything I can get my hands on online, which brought me to the question: is the No-Contact period a good choice for me since the reason she doesn’t want me back is because I was distant and away from her and not there when she needed me, because since I started my crusade I have lost a lot of weight, I got ahead at work, I started dating girls out of my league and over all I have become the person she has always wanted me to be, BUT I did the no contact and we haven’t had any way of contacting in the past 3 weeks, because as soon as I stopped talking much to her, she blocked me from everywhere including from calls, texts and other social media -which I don’t even use much anyway- and I currently have no way of contacting her and/or show her the changes I have made to my life and to my self.
    So in your expert opinion what a man in my situation is to do? Noting that I have learned my lesson and I would want nothing more than to get her back

    P.S: today’s date is Monday, March 21, 2016 for reference to my time line

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    • Brad Browning
      Brad Browning says:

      Yes, man, you ought to NOT rush this process, so cut off contact for at least a month, okay? Especially since things look to have been really heated up lately. Another thing you ought to do…which is supposed to be done while still in a relationship with her, is to communicate with her how she has been clingy and smothering you. Anyway for now, give it time to let all the negativity dissipate, so really cut off contact until at least you reach the 30-day mark. Anyway how has been acting lately? Has she tried to reach out to you? If you think your situation is too unique, though, and there are other things I might’ve missed and taken into consideration, then sign up for my coaching program so I help guide you on a regular basis. Take care!

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  5. Jason
    Jason says:

    Hey what’s up me and my women broke up we was together 4 yrs it’s been about 5 month now I did the no contact she kept coming around she with someone right now but she calls me every morning we even spend the weekend together but she playing the hot and cold game she always asking for money which I don’t give her she tells me move on which I can’t but she seems to always contact me
    What should I do

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    • Brad Browning
      Brad Browning says:

      Try to stand your ground, man and not give her the money — and see how she acts. I suggest to consider moving on from this since there’s a real danger she may be using you as a cash cow, especially if she stops contacting you if you don’t give her what she wants (the money). Good luck, man! I hope you find the right woman for you soon!

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  6. Sannit
    Sannit says:

    Hi, I’ve been reading the ex factor and it’s helping me, we’ve been a week no contact, she cheated on me and we have a young baby together she just kept saying we’d end up married etc but not now cause her heads not right and I know she’s talking to other guys but iv already been so desperate and made all of the mistakes and she literally hates me and says she feels nothing for me, because of the baby I had to tell her we were doing 4 weeks no contact what can I do

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    • Brad Browning
      Brad Browning says:

      Hello there, sorry to hear about the breakup… but I’m glad you now have the tool to guide you on what to do. Now I know it’s difficult (and it’s a different challenge all on its own) but try to follow the guide down to a tee, all right? Read it many times over until you master it. What you told me is a bit contradicting though, so did you mean you have to interact because of the baby? Your case is actually an exception to the “no contact” rule, as you can see. It’s all in the guide, but watch this for reference as this is what should happen in four weeks: How to Act Around Your Ex. Keep things strictly about your kid now and don’t push it, all right? Remember to work on the attractive qualities I wrote on another chapter. Good luck!

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  7. Cal
    Cal says:

    So my girlfriend broke up with me and it came out of know where.. We had been together since June although in November we had a rough patch she ended up sleeping with someone else in the “heat of the moment” and very much regretted it. She then asked me to be her bf again I said yes however I become a bit paranoid and clingy.. She was saying how much she loves me and only wants me always, She said she needs to be single and I have made the mistake of pouring my heart out to her.. She says she needs me as her best friend and wants me in her life, I’m very confused and can’t stop thinking about her, we have text a bit but she has been very blunt, she knew that I was going out last night and after a day or so of the not speaking period she text me this morning asking if had pulled last night and I stupidly replied, and didn’t pull and then she replied saying “oh” I really don’t know what to do!

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    • Brad Browning
      Brad Browning says:

      You ought to be not too available when she asked for you back. Accepting her straight away, without even her making amends and without any of you re-evaluation the situation first, had been a recipe for disaster. I may not know your entire story, but most of the time, cheating is driven basically by a rapidly declining (emotional) attraction. Taking her back right away may have caused her to lose respect for you, regardless of whether it happened intentionally or not. So for now, cut off contact for at least a month and do some evaluating of your relationship first, all right? Let her miss you. She may be confused at this time, so stay out of the way and let her think clearly. You need to do the same as well. Okay? You’re welcome to join my coaching program if you’re unsure how to go about it. Good luck!

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    • Brad Browning
      Brad Browning says:

      Sorry to hear that. Angry spats/exchanges are pretty common. The key is to cut off contact for at least a month because you really don’t have to go through this unnecessary pain, all right? Take care!

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  8. shalini
    shalini says:

    So me and my ex boyfriend broke up almost 2 weeks ago. It was his decision he told me he was tired of our argues and everything but we were really happy together I don’t know why don’t wanna talk to me anymore I tried to talk to him 2 times after the breakup but it didn’t really work the last time I talk to him he told me that he missed but me but he don’t regret his decision of breaking up.. I’m not well at all I really need him in my life I don’t know what to do honestly.. Every rim we cross each other’s like we never met like we are strangers it hurts so much but in his school I always catch him starring at me.. I didn’t act very needy or anything front of him I pretend like everything is okay but it keeps killing me iside I honestly don’t what to do please help me before I become such a psycho 🙁

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    • Brad Browning
      Brad Browning says:

      Sorry to hear about the breakup, Shalini. I suggest you stop trying to talk to him, though. You may not be acting needy but if you keep trying to force things to happen, like talking to him instead of giving him space, then you’re at risk of appearing needy even though that’s not your intention. Acting like you’re okay, on the other hand, does help. I know it’s not easy to do, but it can be done with practice. Okay? Watch this since you still see him around: How to Act Around Your Ex (6 Tips for Handling Post Breakup Encounters) Take care!

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  9. september ends
    september ends says:

    my no contact phase is about to end now and no sign of any response from her i’m even getting feelings she broke up with me for someone else 🙁 , now what should i do my 1mth is about to end with 4 days , how do i approach her again how do i start talking to her and how do i get her back now ? please help me sir i love her a lot :'( i want her back very badly

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  10. Lisa
    Lisa says:

    So, long story short He broke up with me at our 3 month period because of a bad day we were having, I was very stressed out and I let my own frustration get the best of him. Moving forward since then, 3 months later I have done the no contact period, but then there was a halt when I saw a status that he stated he was feeling attracted and happy with someone , and of course it wasn’t me. 2 weeks ago I informed him of the no friend rule ( I used your suggested text of how it is not good for us to be friends. Eventually when we talked about the message ( we attend the same hangout 1 a week) I explained I needed my space and being friends isn’t good. I took the test I have an “F” in addition I read your book. Before this, your advice in the videos I will admit I was hot and cold if I ever saw him, when we talked he said “please starting talking to me”. Anyway my question is should I start with a clean slate email, casual talk, or the platonic text, or just give up, because he may be falling for someone hard :(.

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    • Brad Browning
      Brad Browning says:

      I’m not sure if you’ve done the “no contact” phase correctly since it clashes with how you’ve suddenly established the “no friend” rule? If you haven’t completely cut off contact yet, I suggest you do that first. All right? This phase, based on what you see in the book as well, is the time where you’re supposed to have absolutely zero contact with your ex. It’s a time to focus on you, which means that this includes not checking up on your ex’s whereabouts as well or what he’s doing/posting on social media. All right? Be strong! Watch this: Should You Delete Your Ex from Facebook?

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  11. catter x
    catter x says:

    hey it’s been 2 weeks since we broke up and i really miss her i really want her back as u said i have cut off my contact with her though i havent blocked her in fb , now i’m really desperate to be with her just cant control myself i tried to recover myself but couldnt get over her, and im getting thoughts of her with someone else and i really feel soo bad u know i really want to be hers and she is a girl with lot of ego i think even if i try to be back with her she is too proudy to accept me again :'( i really miss her
    what should i do ?

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    • Brad Browning
      Brad Browning says:

      Sorry to hear about the breakup. Watch yourself, though…if you’re turning desperate and can’t seem to get a good command of your emotions (this is why cutting off contact works, it helps you regain yourself) then chances are you’re not ready to get her back. People can be their own worst enemies sometimes, and that’s what you have to watch out for. Start by concentrating on doing the right things. Start with completing the “No contact” phase. You don’t have to block her on Facebook, but if you can’t help but keep checking her profile, then I’m afraid your last option may be to actually block her. Watch this: Should You Unfriend Your Ex from Facebook?

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  12. Brandy
    Brandy says:

    So I have a unique situation, me and my ex have been having problems for the past mth. He then meet a girl that was just a friend so I was told, after a few days he decided that he wanted to work things out but I didn’t bf wel comfortable with there relationship and it bother me so one night things blew up and he left all night with her, and the next night aslo, she has since moved to Texas and it been a week now and I’m told that he loves her and wants to be with her, but within the last week we have slept together 3 times…. Yesterday I went a little over board in texting him about us and me loving him and not understanding things, and I was told again that we are done and he loves her it doesn’t matter that she lives
    In another state at the moment. I’m not entirely sure what to do, ibdont want to lose him, but I feel I only have a limited time left to change my current situation

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    • Brad Browning
      Brad Browning says:

      Hello, Brandy, a heated argument never helps, as you can tell. Don’t be so hard on yourself, though. I suggest reading my Ex Factor Guide so you’d at least know how to handle a situation and some important principles you ought to keep in mind. All right? Moving forward, I suggest to give him space and let him miss you a bit. Giving space will also help you get a hold of your emotions and find your balance. Cut off contact for at least a month because this is what you both need at the momenet. Okay? Watch this: How to Make Your Ex Miss You

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  13. catter x
    catter x says:

    hey i’m in a deep problem , my girlfriend says she dont have any feelings for me anymore but we havent broke up yet she also says that she has no interest in me anymore but again she says she is trying to love me again spend some days with me but she is a hostler and we hardly get a chance to meet she gave me time about a months and says if she get any feelings for me then we are continuing or else we gonna apart what should i do ? what should i do to win her again in these 1 months ? please help me i love her like hell

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  14. BuildaMan
    BuildaMan says:

    Me and my girl broke up just a month ago. Try everything but she refused to talk to me or see me. Just 2 weeks ago was her bday and get some stuff for her which I bought before she dump me. I went there to have them her but she refused but her mom took them and later text me that she accept it and told me to give her space for two months. Last time I check her Facebook she is dating another guy. Calling him my man holding each other’s hand. I still love her to death. Should I give up or wait till the two month period. We not contacting each other.

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  15. Mikale
    Mikale says:

    I’m 19 and i was dating this girl for about 3 to 4 months and things were extremely serious. Me and her were always together and couldn’t stop talking and touching each other. The problem is her mom dislikes me fore some reason and she was the one who told my ex that she needs to leave me. We haven’t talked in a month and she is always posting negative things about me on social media.

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    • Brad Browning
      Brad Browning says:

      Her mom may just be overprotective and in this case, I’m sorry but there’s really not much you can do here other than to move on. The thing is, it has to be her choice to choose you, and with the circumstances being presented, that may not be possible yet. Perhaps see in a few years time where you’re both independent and see what happens? 🙂 Move on for now. Good luck!

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  16. Tasha
    Tasha says:

    Hey,
    Me & my ex split up around 3 months ago, there was no contact but recently he got in touch with me and apologised, he then just turned up at my house (I moved in after we broke up he remembered my address from a mutual friend giving him it a week after we broke up) he has visited me twice and we talk everyday, he has also admitted he missed me. When we are together it just feels like old times and he thinks this too. Do you think there is a chance we could end up back together?

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  17. Darrein
    Darrein says:

    So me & my ex broke up about a month ago & we’ve been talking every other day since the break up. She told me she wants me to be a part of her life no matter what. She recently moved out of her parents house into her friends who I believe don’t like me. Also she told me to chase & I’m forever yours. But she also plays hot & cold. She said she wants to be friends to see if I’ve changed along the lines. I’m 21 she’s 19 going on 20. What should I do?

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