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Why It’s Not Too Late To Get Your Girlfriend Back

After a tough and possibly unexpected breakup, it’s natural to feel as though you may never be able to win back your now ex girlfriend.  But the reality is this: In most situations, you still have a very good chance of getting her back.

Your Ex Still Has Feelings For You

The first thing you need to understand is that, in almost all cases, your ex girlfriend still has a strong emotional attachment to you.  She hasn’t forgotten everything she loved about you when you were together, and she wouldn’t have begun dating you in the first place unless she was attracted to you.

Couple in conflictThis attraction that your ex girlfriend feels for you — both physical and emotional — doesn’t simply disappear in the wake of a breakup.

In fact, sometimes it can actually grow stronger in the weeks and months after a breakup, especially if you employ the “no contact” strategy.

The Missing You Factor

If you’ve ever been the one initiating a breakup — and most of us have, at some point, had to do so — then you probably remember the first few weeks after breaking up with your ex. You felt horrible that you hurt her, and there were many times when you wished you could just make it all go away and get back together with her.

Well, your ex girlfriend is almost certainly feeling those same emotions right now.  She misses you, and she longs for the comfort and safety she felt when you were together. Unless she’s already found someone else to fill this void in her life — and if the two of you were together for a year or longer, that’s extremely unlikely — then she’ll be fighting the urge to call you and get back together with you.

Think of it this way:  a drug addict doesn’t continue to do drugs because he or she wants to.  In fact, most drug addicts would love to be clean and sober. But every time they try to quit, they are overcome with the symptoms of withdrawal:  fatigue, irritability, nausea, headaches, etc.

They may battle these horrible effects of withdrawal for days or even weeks, but all the time they’re well aware that all these problems will magically disappear with a single dose of whatever drug they were addicted to.  As a result, most addicts eventually cave in to this desire, and fail to stay clean for long.

Now, you’re not a drug addict and your ex girlfriend isn’t trying to sober up, but the situation is definitely similar.  Your ex is missing you, feeling lonely and heartbroken. And she probably knows that picking up the phone and telling you she still loves you is probably all it will take for the two of you to get back together.

She’s Probably Going to Contact You

Most likely, your ex girlfriend is going to contact you in the week and months following your breakup.

This doesn’t always happen, but most people (we’re only human, after all!) cave in to their weaknesses and contact their ex.

When your ex girlfriend inevitably does contact you, you have two options:

  1. You can tell her how much you miss her, tell her you’re sorry, ask for her forgiveness, and generally do all the things that desperate men do when they want to win back their ex girlfriends.
  2. You can use this initial contact as a springboard to a new and stronger relationship together.  After all, you know she still loves you and is fighting the urge to get back together with you.  If you say the right things at the right times, knowing that she’s feeling lonely and still craving your touch, you can slowly win back her heart and build a stronger, healthier, and more loving relationship.

Since you’ve probably still got unanswered questions or concerns, I recommend you consider investing in a comprehensive guide to getting your ex back.

My personal recommendation is The Ex Factor Guide, written by a certified relationship counselor who has 10 years experience working with couples. In his incredibly thorough 130-page e-book, he explains the importance of taking action at the right times, and how you should react when your ex girlfriend inevitably contacts you.

Best of luck, I hope you’re able to win her back for good!

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About Jessica Raymond

Jessica Raymond, BSc, RCC, is LoveLearnings senior editor. As a relationship counselor, Jessica has helped hundreds of men and women achieve their relationship dreams. Whether it’s finding your one true love or simply charming someone on a date, Jessica's got your back! In her articles, she reveals little-known, psychological tips that will make even the coldest person chase you around like a little puppy.
3 replies
  1. John barrett
    John barrett says:

    Hey Brad
    My friend was over at my house and my ex started texting me and she wanted to talk about our relationship and we did. So after a while of texting she called me and we talked and laughed and had a good time. after I hung up and went to bed. I woke up with 1 missed call and 3 text messages saying call me please. Later on that day I did and she says she loves me but doesn’t know of she wants to be together. What do I do. I NEED HELP.

    • Brad Browning
      Brad Browning says:

      Hey man, sorry to hear that. How your ex had been behaving was no surprise, though. Things tend to be confusing to both of you (regardless of who’s doing the dumping) and mixed signals are pretty common. This is what I call the “no contact” phase (first 30 days) and how it could’ve helped.There has to be enough time and space first. I’ve discussed this a lot in my videos. Watch this: What to Say to Your Ex to Win Them Back Good luck!

  2. Cee
    Cee says:

    Hey brad, 2 days ago my girlfriend broke up with me, well today I talked to her, apologized for what I had done, she seems to be still upset, told my mom that she doesn’t think she wants to be with me again. Do I have a chance what do I do?


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