How To Talk To A Girl

You see an attractive girl. She’s looking at you. You smile at each other. But what do you do next?

How on Earth are you going to get a conversation going?

Well, you’re in luck because what I’m about to tell you is advice that a lot of men will never know in their lifetime. It is the Art of Conversation! Yes, talking to a woman is where all the magic happens. And, depending how good of a conversationalist you are, it is where a woman decides to sleep with you or not. If you’re a smooth enough talker, you can get anyone to do just about anything. [RELATED: How To Be More Handsome]

Ever heard of a guy named Grigori Rasputin? He was some random, crazy Russian dude who seduced the Russian Queen during Tsarist Russia in the early 1900’s. This guy was so smooth, that he actually convinced the queen that he was a mystical healer that could use magic to heal her sick son. Let me preface this by saying, Rasputin was one ugly motherlover.

Obviously, the guy was full of it… but he was as Usher says, “A True Player For Real.” [RELATED: How To Pick Up Girls – The Scientific Method Of Doing It!]

Here is a list of things you can do to really get a conversation going with women!

hot couple having a conversation#1 – Speak slowly! Yes, when somebody talks too quickly, they just look nervous, high-strung, and to women, this is a huge turn-off. See, hot chicks are always used to guys be all nervous and weak around them, so the slower you talk, the more calm and collected you’ll see, and the sooner you’ll be to being in bed with her.

#2 – Don’t lean in so much. See, guys who aren’t that good with women make it so obvious that they’re interested. They’ll lean and try and talk to a girl. They’ll try and get as close as possible, but sorry to say, this just turns women off. Learn to lean back while conversing with women.

#3 – Look into her eyes. Take a page out of Medusa, man! Conversation is all about engaging your audience, and part of getting a girl to engage is to look into her eyes while you’re talking to her. [RELATED: What Women Look For In A Man]

#4 – Smile! This is the easiest thing to do. Smiling is psychologically proven to make people feel more at ease. See, beautiful women get hit on a million times a day, and most of these guys are try-hard, nervous wrecks. You need to come off as a fun and cool guy, and smiling helps you do this.

#5 – Touch her but not in a creepy way. Don’t be afraid to playfully whack her or hold her hand for a split second. If you watch guys who are really good with women, you’ll see that they touch them often… but they touch them in ways women want to be touched. This means no groping (yet), no touching of her more intimate areas, and no touching for a prolonged period of time. Just engage in light-hearted, fun touching.

#6 – Talk about things that interest her. That means don’t talk about videogames, cars, or the hockey game (unless, of course, any of those genuinely interest her). Talk about social life, friends, relationships, couples, and life goals. Tell her about your ambitions. Tell her about all the cool places you’ve been. Take her to that fantasy fun world and never look back.

But look… the Art of Conversation isn’t all that simple. There’s actually just so much more to it. And once you master it, it’ll almost be like you’ll never be lonely. It’s not just about having more women; it’s about having more friends and better relationships with people in general. It’s an incredibly useful skill to have!

About Derek Lamont

Derek Lamont, BSc, is an experienced dating coach and veteran pickup artist. In addition to helping men around the world attract women, he's also the author of an award-winning seduction system. Through his best-selling Online Pickup Secrets program, Derek has helped thousands of men from around the world use online dating and social media websites to find love and live “happily ever after”.
5 replies
  1. Dillon O.
    Dillon O. says:

    Cool, great advice. I never knew that touching was so important when it comes to talking to a girl. But the thing is… I’m super shy and I feel like if I touched a girl (in any way) I’d feel like I’d be creeping her out… any tips on this?

  2. ian
    ian says:

    love the advice bro…but this only works if girls see you as an underdog guys like me are underdogs in a winners body i need extensive help…

  3. will you send me more of theses tacticts,i'm really's gonna be very helpfull to me.
    will you send me more of theses tacticts,i'm really's gonna be very helpfull to me. says:

    i always want have such kind of book on how to talk to a girl or a old woman for love when we can meet for the first time, how may i go about it? please, hepl derrick!


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