Are you tired of guessing what women want? Confused about what turns women on?
Let me put your mind at ease with three guaranteed ways to turn women on. These aren’t Kama Sutra moves; they are a way to get her attention and make her want to be around you.
I can’t count how many times my male clients have come to me utterly confused about what women want. And the thing is that most women don’t really know what they want. And when it comes to turning them on, it isn’t always something in a sexual nature that makes them feel turned on and attracted to you.
Sometimes women get turned on by the simplest gestures.
1. Get Her Out of Her Head
The first thing to turn a woman on is to get her out of her own head. That is to make her be present in the moment. You can do this through telling a joke or doing something silly that just makes her laugh.
Most women have a tendency to over-analyze everything. And when I say everything, I mean EVERYTHING—from the way that the postman looked at her, to the tone of a text with a best friend.
When you’re in your head that much, you spend a lot of time worrying and stressing over menial things. Because women are a detail oriented species, this can sometimes affect their mood.
Your goal in getting her out of her head is to focus on you and the moment that you two are sharing, not on the problems of her day.
If you can get a woman out of her head, she will have more time to focus her attention on you. This might not sound like the sexiest way to turn a woman on, but it is the best first step.
The way to a woman’s heart is through her mind. Penetrate her thoughts, and you will be well on your way to arousing her feelings.
This next one is one of the best ways to get a woman out of her own head.
2. Take control of the situation
Taking control of the situation is one of the best ways to turn a woman on because it does many things. First of all, it shows her that you are confident. If you can control the situation and make some decisions, you remove some of the pressure on her to make an appropriate decision for the both of you.
For example, say you’re trying to decide on a movie to go and see, instead of going back and forth about what movie to see and what show time you want to attend, make the decision and pose it as a statement as opposed to a question.
“Let’s go see the 7 p.m. showing of (insert movie title).”
Doing this also shows that you’re thinking about her and how to make her life easier and more enjoyable.
One of my clients, Ben, just recently updated me on the state of his current relationship. Ben was confused about how to win the attention of his very busy co-worker whom he had casually been dating. I suggested that he make her dinner one night. But Ben took this a step further.
But, first, a bit of background: Ben’s girl, Natalie, works 40 hours a week, so Ben and Natalie have found it hard to find time to spend together.
Ben finished work before Natalie and asked her if he could crash at her house for the night, as he had to work early the next day. Natalie obliged and gave him the keys.
What Natalie didn’t know was what Ben had planned for her.
Ben didn’t go right to bed. No, he went out, and bought groceries and made Natalie dinner. When Natalie got off at 9 p.m., she arrived at her apartment to a home cooked meal.
I should mention that Natalie was taking things slowly with Ben because she had just gotten out of a tumultuous 3-year relationship. A relationship where she tried to be the sole provider and Suzie home maker.
So when Ben surprised her with dinner, she was completely shocked by this gesture of kindness. She was elated that someone had thought about her needs for once. And, ultimately, she was turned on by his thoughtfulness.
It showed that he has been thinking about her and wanted to help to remove some of the pressures from her life by doing something as simple as making her a home cooked meal.
For a woman, when someone cares about your well-being and wants to contribute to your happiness, it is a huge turn on. HUGE!
Alright, the third piece of advice that I have to turn women on is through touch. Once you have got a woman out of her head, and taken control of the situation, you can start to incorporate touch into the equation.
Sexually, women need more of a build up than men do. Turning her on through touch is also about teasing her. It’s as simple as rubbing her arm and/or running your hands through her hair as you kiss her. Think foreplay.
Once you understand what makes your girl tick, she is putty in your hands, literally.
Women are aroused by many things aside from a stark-naked man, which is actually lucky for you because it means that we are open minded about what turns us on.
These three ways to turn women on are great for the sole fact that they make a woman feel cared for and thought about, which is the biggest turn on for women.