Make that long distance relationship easier!

Long Distance Relationship Advice

Being in a long distance relationship can be extremely difficult, but if both sides are willing to make the effort, long distance relationships can really, really pay off! And if both parties work hard enough, it could potentially make your relationship even stronger.  [RELATED: How to Be Romantic]

Yes, there’s that old saying, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”. It’s totally true. If you two are really into each other and you both take the proper measures to make it work, you two will be better off. Count on it.

long distance relationship

Make a communication schedule with your partner!

Being a relationship counselor, I encounter a lot of couples struggling to make long distance relationships work. And in my line of work, I’ve seen people try almost everything to resolve the issues that arise, so I know what works and what doesn’t.

So here are some proven tips that will ensure that you and your partner maintain a strong, healthy bond even though you are physically apart! [RELATED: Online Dating Advice For Men]

Step 1 – Make sure there is an end in sight. Unless you two want to have a cyber relationship for the rest of your lives (no offence if you’re into that sort of thing), you’re going to have to first talk about when the whole “distance thing” is going to end. Talk about your end goal and keep that in mind as you move forward. Use this as your motivation. Envision how good it’s going to feel once you two achieve your goals apart and then finally reunite!

Talk about this time with your partner and tell him or her how excited and happy you’ll feel once this moment comes.

texting in long distance relationship

Don’t be afraid to let your partner know that you miss them!

Step 2- Trust, trust, trust. And then trust more. It’s pretty cliché, right? And it goes without saying, sure, but during my time as a relationship counselor, I’ve seen couples say they trust each other, but fail to actually put that trust into practice.

Okay, first I have to say it’s natural to feel jealous. It’s okay to feel possessive. I’m possessive over my cat and my laptop computer! And there’s nothing you can do or say to make me automatically lose that emotion. It’s what you do with that emotion that makes a difference here.

Trusting someone means giving them space when they need it. Constantly pestering each other will only cause arguments and disagreements, and trust me when I say that having an argument over the phone or over e-mail can sometimes be much, much worse than having one in real life. You want to avoid these disagreements as much as possible – the integrity of your long-distance relationship depends on it.

So the next time you feel jealous, instead of asking him or her, “What did you do last night? Were you with another girl/guy?”… just don’t. Instead, turn this emotion into something positive and tell your partner that you’ve missed them.

Step 3 – Schedule times to communicate with each other. Technology has come a long way. Imagine trying to have a long distance relationship with someone over e-mail…

“Back in the good old days, we’d actually have to write a letter by hand and send it through snail mail. It would take months to send one letter across the ocean!”  – My dad.

We live in a pretty amazing time in which we can Skype and FaceTime each other for free. So take advantage of these technologies and make sure you two get your fix every couple of days. When you do communicate, make sure you talk about everything together. Don’t be afraid to talk about mundane, day-to-day stuff. By talking about almost everything, you immerse each other in your respective lives.

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Visit each other. Do it.

Step 4 – Schedule visits. Yes, this is one of the most important steps. Make time for some visits. Now, I have no idea how far you two will be apart or how much time and money you have to make this happen, but if this person is worth it, you’ll make it work. Physical contact is so important in a relationship, and in fact, studies show that physical contact may be the basis of attraction, so capitalize on this info!

And make these reunions mean something. Make sure your time is spent well and that these reunions are hot. Yes, sex is extremely important during these times, so make sure you have great sex (and a lot of it!).

Step 5 – Talk about your future with each other. Yes, remember Step One and keep the end goal in mind! Motivation is the key to victory here, so talk about how incredible it will be once your time apart is finished. Talk about what you two will do together. Talk about where you will go. Talk about the little things like which restaurants you’ll go to. Or talk about how amazing it will feel once you can hold each other’s hands again.

Every relationship counselor on the planet will tell you that communication is key to success when it comes to any relationship, and long distance is no exception! So keep these 5 things in mind when coping with your long distance relationship – and don’t be afraid to send this article to your partner to read as well!

Cheers!

About Jessica Raymond

Jessica Raymond, BSc, RCC, is LoveLearnings senior editor. As a relationship counselor, Jessica has helped hundreds of men and women achieve their relationship dreams. Whether it’s finding your one true love or simply charming someone on a date, Jessica's got your back! In her articles, she reveals little-known, psychological tips that will make even the coldest person chase you around like a little puppy.
6 replies
  1. Surveen
    Surveen says:

    Hi brad!!How r u???jus started watching ur videos…n m loving it..!!I jus starting talking to guy through video call he is in another country..i jus feel very positive&refreshed talking to him…n i feel we should be together…m in a very initial stage of talking with him…i really want to know is there any way i can attract him towards me??in a positive way???what r the do”s n don’ts?

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    • Brad Browning
      Brad Browning says:

      The answer is time and getting to know this person better. Let things happen naturally and things between you grow, as you get to know each other more. Now I know you can get easily carried away in the initial stages, but try to meet up with the guy before further emotionally investing in him, okay? 🙂 Make sure you stay busy in other things in your life as well to keep things i balance. Good luck!

      Reply
  2. keerthi
    keerthi says:

    Hi brad myslf breakup with my girl two days before ..and now she is finally moving on…she once loved me so truly..but she is so strong about her desicion …she already have been in such situtation before..in which she took like this type of desicion….finally…..!
    We two were together were in true relationship….2 or 3 months before…just after that….before few days …before …she breakup with me….and she is finally moving on….reason for that is she felt like iam pressuring her in al point..
    She is so strong in her desicion…once she took it wont be change again….
    Help me brad to get ma ex or love back to me……we are in long distance relation…she is so far from me….so so far…i want evrythng to get work out..plzz…give me few tips and ideas….
    Iam 24 and and my ex is 20…years..in age….she loved me so sincerely…

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    • Brad Browning
      Brad Browning says:

      Hello, Keerthi! Getting an ex back is a gradual process, so there’s no one-action solution for everything. Okay? The “no contact” phase is a good start, so do that first if you haven’t yet. If you have. then I’m glad you’ve completed it. There are two more phases to go with a few other steps in between. What I’m trying to say here is it’s a 3-phase process, and it’s a bit complicated to explain it all on here, but I made an overview in the hopes of making people understand, so watch it here: How To Get Your Ex Back (Step-By-Step Guide To Reversing A Breakup) or read my guide for the entire process. Good luck!

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  3. ajay
    ajay says:

    I am in a long distance relationship for 2 years I love her soo much and she also does but she is worried about the age difference between us its 10 years n says her friends always say her that so always tfues to make iisues coz of this what shall i do please tell me please I am in very much big tention please help me

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