Comments on: How to Get Over a Breakup https://www.lovelearnings.com/breakups/how-to-get-over-a-breakup Relationships, breakups, and dating guidance from the experts Sat, 25 Dec 2021 05:12:37 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.1.6 By: Brad Browning https://www.lovelearnings.com/breakups/how-to-get-over-a-breakup#comment-20220 Sat, 25 Dec 2021 05:12:37 +0000 https://www.lovelearnings.com/?page_id=1515#comment-20220 In reply to Kara.

Employ the 30-day “no contact” rule first. Here’s how you can tell it’s starting to work: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T4Sz6DiWRsQ Though make sure you follow the tips here as well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xgR03RcU8mw AND some recent tips here: http://y2u.be/FLeP1eRCkCk Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day “no contact” rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it’s shown in their actions). This would also help guide you on what to do after the “no contact” rule: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BAhMrmw3Sms Anyway there are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aeGNPBdpnsI

]]> By: Kara https://www.lovelearnings.com/breakups/how-to-get-over-a-breakup#comment-19810 Mon, 01 Nov 2021 23:30:31 +0000 https://www.lovelearnings.com/?page_id=1515#comment-19810 Hi, so me and my ex broke up a few days ago. He decided to break things off because they weren’t wanting a relationship right now but doesn’t exactly know why. I had a few doubts and wanted space has well so it was sort of mutual. We loved each other but it was very sudden. Earlier that day we were perfectly fine, no doubts, and had reaussurance from him it wouldn’t happen. Although the past week he had been distancing from me. I understand to give him some space and not make things worse just I have no idea what to do in this situation from there.

]]> By: Alex https://www.lovelearnings.com/breakups/how-to-get-over-a-breakup#comment-11024 Wed, 28 Oct 2020 14:22:55 +0000 https://www.lovelearnings.com/?page_id=1515#comment-11024 Hi Brad, I need your help, me and my boyfriend broke up 6 weeks ago after almost 3 and a half years. We had an argument and I ended it with him, he spent the day apologising and trying to fix things but I wouldn’t have it. The next morning I phoned him and he said he was done, he felt we were too different . We talked for a couple of days, he sent me some lovely messages, I then decided to do no contact. He messaged me, called me etc. And after 4 days I called him and said I needed space to get over the break up. He said he was confused and didn’t know if he’d made the right decision. Fast forward 3 weeks and he seemed to be really distant and not be emotional anymore, he agreed to meet up with me twice then cancelled both times. I now haven’t spoken to him for 2 weeks (I’m in no contact) but I feel like his distance and lack of interest means he’s moved on and over me. Any advice?

]]> By: Joshua Ferranto https://www.lovelearnings.com/breakups/how-to-get-over-a-breakup#comment-8130 Sun, 10 Nov 2019 03:29:31 +0000 https://www.lovelearnings.com/?page_id=1515#comment-8130 Hey Brad, me and my ex broke up about a month ago and I still have very strong feelings for her but unfortunately she has already moved on and is in a new relationship. I would like to get over her but she is pregnant and saying that the child is mine do you have any advice on how I can move on and start to feel better about myself?

]]> By: Jessica https://www.lovelearnings.com/breakups/how-to-get-over-a-breakup#comment-7213 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 22:00:02 +0000 https://www.lovelearnings.com/?page_id=1515#comment-7213 I am a lesbian and my ex girl had breaken up with me i dont know how to get over the break up..i am reaching out for some advice

]]> By: Thim https://www.lovelearnings.com/breakups/how-to-get-over-a-breakup#comment-6480 Sun, 07 Apr 2019 21:19:06 +0000 https://www.lovelearnings.com/?page_id=1515#comment-6480 Hi Brad,

Thanks for your advices and videos about break ups it’s helpful keep it up!
Well my story is like this..
I’m from 10 years relationship and we have just broke up close to a month ago, it’s a different kind of relationship, she’s a butch apparently and I dont know if I can apply your tips and course because it’s incline only for opposite sex. We are still living in he same house and we are still having casual talks bec we cannot avoid if its about the bills concerns in the house. She move out to stay in the sofa. I feel so devastated I think it’s my fault of having initiating the break up whenever we fight and this happens when we are so cold already for the past 4 months and she suddenly went for 10 daya holiday , and during that vacay i always fight wd her bec i sense something already but she deny, on the actual day when she arrived i feel that she is a different person,thats why i initiated the break up and i went out that night to spend time wd my friend to and went back the following day. When i tried to win her back i said sorry can we get back i ddnt mean to say that ( bec b4 after this scenerio she will accept me again) now things has changed (, bec a lot of friends she asked for advices if she will give me a second chance) she is very firm now her concern is she dont want to hide our relationship for life, she thought that she will leave me in the end because i have kida from previous marriage and we are not open, she said she want to be single for now dont want to think of other things or people. Thats point i feel that the only reason why shes lke that is she has found one that’s why my biggest mistake is to text the possible robber girls that i saw during her 10 days vacay..and she got mad and say i thought i can stay i can still love you but now its over!you humiliated me with my friends…now it’s difficult to let go..agter the height of fight she told me that a lot of things has changed and i cannot do intimate thing with you again..what should i do im ok the stage wherr is so difficult and my body is giving up already..i love the person so much even my life thats why the impact is enormous i ddnt see this coming bec 10 yrs we revolve our life only with each other..brad please help me to get her back..thank you

]]> By: Allison https://www.lovelearnings.com/breakups/how-to-get-over-a-breakup#comment-6313 Mon, 04 Feb 2019 04:59:04 +0000 https://www.lovelearnings.com/?page_id=1515#comment-6313 I am only a freshman and I was with mr bf for only 10 months but it hurts losing someone you loved and dont kbow how they feel and you just want to be back with them so your not hurting but very slowly I am coming to the reality that we might not get back together but I wish we could. How could I convince him that we should be together or to try again?

]]> By: Holly https://www.lovelearnings.com/breakups/how-to-get-over-a-breakup#comment-6312 Sun, 03 Feb 2019 12:30:12 +0000 https://www.lovelearnings.com/?page_id=1515#comment-6312 Broke it off with my fiance about a year ago. Were were together for 7 years, lived together for 3 years and were engaged for 1 year. I am 29 yrs old and he is 32.
I broke it off as I needed to find myself after my studies and I wasn’t sure he was really the one. As I have not much experience in the boyfriend department, I needed to see what was out there. The conclusion is: not much compared to what I had.

In the past year, I obviously miss him a lot, but I have kept busy to keep the feelings of the break at arms-length. But after seeing him collecting the last of his stuff yesterday from our storage room, I suddenly realized, I need him back!
I really broke his heart when I broke us up, and now I fear that he will not give me a chance again, because he is too afraid to get hurt again.
Also I am afraid of acting on my feelings, because what if we both end up even heartbroken than this time around.

]]> By: Julie-Ann https://www.lovelearnings.com/breakups/how-to-get-over-a-breakup#comment-6305 Mon, 28 Jan 2019 06:18:23 +0000 https://www.lovelearnings.com/?page_id=1515#comment-6305 Alright so, I’m only fifteen and I’m a fresh!an so I know the first thing you will say is that I’m too young yadda yadda yadda. I understand, I get that. But still I just want help. So it’s been months since me and my ex broke up. We dated for three months but it felt shorter. But she was amazing. She made life bight and easy and fun. We had so many good laughs and memories and I fell in love. And she made it seem like she fell in love too. Until one night she texted me and told me she was talking to this boy and she wanted to have space so she could back up and see if this was what she really wanted. She asked if she could date him but for me to stick around just in case I was what she really wanted. I loved her so of course I stayed. I waited for a month. She cheated on him with me so many times I almost told him cause I knew it was wrong and it felt wrong. I hate cheating. But I loved her so much I didn’t want to lose what little piece of her I had. She got really !ad every time I tried to move on and she would push every girl away that I got close too. Then she her and her bf broke up she said I didn’t chose her. Cause I was with someone else and I told her and the girl I was with that she was just someone to help me move on. I was tired of the hurting and the pain and I wanted to move on. I wanted to feel something other than longing and desire for the one that brings me the most pain. Basically I’ve been dealing with her carp for eight months. Just last November when things were quiet between us I had a break down. I didn’t know who to call so I called her sister. We talked on the phone for hours and got really close. We’ve been best friends since. My ex told her sister that if she got close to me we would both be dead to her. That’s how I knew my ex wasn’t over me. But I let it go and I stuck to get over her. Everyone was telling me too and I wanted too. But then I started growing feelings for her sister and I got snap for her and then as soon as I got snap my ex texted me. It was new years eve. She texted me and told me she missed me and we hit it off. I have in to the feelings and the pain and the want. We talked again and she even said something about getting back together. But her sister wasnt too happy about that and ik it was my fault but she was there when I was hurting and she was saying the right things at the right time and I really care about her I really do. I knew her before I knew my ex. But anyways me and my ex hit it off but then something bad happened between her and my family and they told me I couldn’t talk to her. Or anyone in her family. Being taken away from my ex with whom I was still in love with was one thing, but being taken away from my ex and my best friend at the same time was rough. I couldn’t do it. I loved her. And something did happen and I texted her and we almost started off again But then she brought up her ex bf, the one she left me for and told me she would do take him back and that did it for me. I stopped talking to her for good. Yet I loved her. But now, almost a month later here I am. In love with her sister (with whom I sneak and talk too everyday) and longing for my ex that I haven’t talked to since the incident. I just want someone to tell me what to do. I’m scared. I don’t wanna have these feelings anymore. I don’t wanna live anyone and be split into different worlds. I just wanna be by myself. But my feeling and emotions won’t let me. Ik I can get my ex back. I just wanna know whether it’s a good idea or not.

]]> By: Genalyn https://www.lovelearnings.com/breakups/how-to-get-over-a-breakup#comment-6292 Sat, 12 Jan 2019 22:56:31 +0000 https://www.lovelearnings.com/?page_id=1515#comment-6292 Hi brad..i just broke uo with my ex a week ago…i tried ti blicked him on messenger but he keeps on msngng me with ine of my account and asking me why il always blicked him…he tild me that even were nit tigether he want to mag me ciz im his best….should i cintinue to have a cinversatiin wit him or just ignore him..

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