Comments on: Why Is My Ex So Mean? The Harsh Truth About Your Cruel Ex

By: Allyssa Spain

Allyssa Spain — Thu, 24 Sep 2020 05:29:42 +0000

My ex and i have broken up twice now once when covid 19 hit and just now on labor day and i honestly i think this whole break up was a big misunderstanding. I asked for space because my dog died and i just wanted to cooperate on my own but before we broke up
he came asking to come over and talk and facetime and i just wanted to be alone and i have a feeling that it’s not over deep down inside and ever since the break we have had no contact except for once asking if he was okay after a hurricane and ever since the break up he has been stalking my instagram in so lost i don’t know what to do

By: Mango

Mango — Wed, 29 Jul 2020 16:52:26 +0000

Hello! I have completed NC before. But I felt like when I resumed there were still resentments from him towards me.
He broke up with me because he felt like my insecurities pushed him away.
I initiated a shorted NC period so he would stop being so easily resenting towards me and it kind of helped? But now I feel like I don’t even have any loving side to him left.
He has his guards up 100%, tells me he doesn’t care about emotions whatnot. But I know that ain’t true, I was his first love and the first person he’s ever opened up to. He cried when we fought and cried about the fear of losing his guardian.
Yet now he claims it wouldn’t bother him as much if his guardian would die. My friends have seen him before and they reaffirmed that he indeed went back to his old ways of “not caring” about the world.
I’m unsure on how to handle this because I feel like I’m talking to a wall right now. Should I restart NC ? Go indefinite NC ? Or do I slowly keep up small talks and not take the bait as you mentioned and hope he would warm up to me again ?
Small conversations are easy to have with him but whenever he smells a hint of emotion behind a statement of mine he goes cold (even if it wasn’t initiated by me or even intended).

By: Brad Browning

Brad Browning — Sat, 11 Jul 2020 03:36:30 +0000

In reply to Ali.

Really sorry to hear that, Ali. There’s no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn’t seem to be regretting their actions and/or making a solid effort to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you’re on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m27TLeyUmwg&t=9s There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it’s personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there’s been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place. Someone asked me the same question as you and here’s what I told them, refer to the second question: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Fgc5F9Ck5Q&t=1s Take care!

By: Ali

Ali — Mon, 08 Jun 2020 13:40:01 +0000

My ex cheated on me and dumped me for the other woman. He has been extremely rude to me. No apology, no explanation, just plain rude. I haven’t been contacting him and yet he still sends me messages saying how much he hates me, what a waste of his time I was, and how happy he is now. I’m not responding to him and even tho it hurts me, I have to believe that this isn’t about me, it’s about him.