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What Women Look For In A Man: 12 Things

October 23, 2012/2 Comments/in Dating /by Jessica Raymond

For some reason, there’s a general lack of knowledge among men when it comes to the characteristics women want in a boyfriend or husband. Some guys even seem to think this is a closely-guarded secret.

In actual fact, though, there’s really no mystery at all — almost all girls find a certain set of characteristics to be extremely attractive and desirable in a man.

What, exactly, are these character traits that the ladies lust after? What do you need to do to be every girl’s dream guy? Well, here are 12 characteristics you’ll want to demonstrate if you’re going to show the ladies that you’re “Mr Perfect.”

1.You Are a Confident Leader

Women are naturally attracted to men in positions of power. There’s a reason why all the girls in your high school wanted to sleep with the star quarterback of the football team and not the backup kicker.

There’s a reason why women chase after the lead singer of a rock band and not the guy sweeping up the stage after a show. The ability to lead and be powerful is one of the most effective aphrodisiacs.

2. You Don’t Let Others Affect Your Reality

Especially on an emotional level. Attractive women are used to seeing men become emotionally flustered in their presence, so when they encounter a guy who is completely unaffected by them, they can’t help but notice.

Women have an uncanny ability to deduce how sexually needy you are, and not allowing yourself to be affected by gorgeous women shows a total lack of neediness!

3. You Don’t Care What Other People Think of You

Men who don’t care about the opinions of others tend to be confident, powerful alpha males. Watch a few action movies and you’ll usually find that the leading male character (the ‘hero’) shares this quality. This indifference to the opinions of others goes hand-in-hand with confidence and leadership, which are both very sexy traits.

4. You’re Handsome

Just like a lot of women, many guys in relationships “let themselves go” and stop doing the little things needed to maintain their appearance.

Being clean and stylish does wonders for creating attraction, especially if you already possess some of the other traits in this list.

5. You Know How to Provoke a Positive Emotional Response in Women

In other words, you know how to have fun and make the ladies laugh.

You know that song “girls just wanna have fun?” There’s some truth to that.

If you ask a woman what she looks for in a man, there’s a very good chance that she’ll probably say “humor.” You don’t have to turn into a stand-up comedian overnight, but you should know how to show a girl a good time.

6. You’re Not Needy

You are culturally, mentally, and emotionally rich, and you are a selfless giver to the ones you love. It takes a lot for someone to get into your “good books,” and you never ask for money or love. You’re a high-value dude who doesn’t need any handouts to get where you’re going in life.

7. You Are Intelligent and Talented

You have passions and interests that extend beyond video-games and beer pong.

Women are attracted to men that have skills and talents. Maybe you can paint, play the violin, or write poetry. Maybe you can run marathons or bench press a house.

What your talents are isn’t the important thing – it’s that you have them to begin with.

8. You Are Social

You’ve got a ton of friends and you’re well-known and well-liked by others. You love your friends and treat them with respect. You can make new friends without much difficulty, and you don’t surround yourself with losers or low-value people.

9. You Have Goals

You’re ambitious and hard-working. No self-respecting woman wants a lazy, unmotivated boyfriend. You know what you want from life and what your goals are, and you’re working towards achieving them.

You don’t have to shoot for the stars — even deciding you’re going to make something new and exotic for dinner and then following through with it can be very attractive.

10. Other Women Want You

When a woman sees that you’re surrounded by and/or wanted by other attractive ladies, she’s going to immediately assume you’re pretty awesome.

It’s called “pre-selection.” In other words, if a girl sees other women chasing after you, she’ll assume you’re an alpha male and join in chasing after you as well.

11. You’re Always Comfortable to Be Around

You aren’t constantly stressed out about your life. You’re always cool, calm, and collected. You usually have a calm and relaxed demeanor about yourself.

You don’t cause unnecessary drama or become flustered over small things. (Can you think of a time when James Bond ever gets flustered or stressed? Never — and he’s as sexy as they come!).

12. You Are a Manly Man, But Also Sensitive

Yes, for the most part you are a man’s man, and you get what you want. You’re strong (emotionally and physically), but you’re also not afraid to show some vulnerability. By showing the world that you’re not a robot, you make yourself more likeable and more approachable.

Putting It All Together

Are these 12 characters traits an exhaust list? Are they the only things that women look for in a man?

Of course not. All women are different. However, the traits I outlined above are typically universally accepted as desirable character traits, so if you want to make yourself as attractive as possible to the opposite sex, then these 12 things would be a great start.

2 Sneaky Ways To Appear More Confident Around Women

October 23, 2012/in Dating /by Mark Belmont

Most people agree that self-confidence is a crucial prerequisite to success. Not just success with women and dating — although that’s certainly one major benefit — but success in the world of business, friendships and life in general.

Unfortunately for the most part you can’t “fake” self-confidence, it’s something that you develop as you improve various facets of your life, such as your appearance. If you try too hard, or just seem unnatural, people will definitely catch on pretty quickly.

That said, there are a few tricks that can be used to successfully convey a sense of confidence. As an added benefit, putting these techniques to use will also gradually increase your own self-esteem.

If you’re dedicated and work at it, you’ll notice yourself really beginning to believe that you can be successful, which is how true self-confidence is developed.

Technique #1: Use Correct Body Posture

This is a very, very important method of conveying confidence. Many expert “pick up artists” choose to teach their students body posture before anything else because it immediately indicates a man’s confidence level.

Body posture is more than just sitting up straight. It means standing tall, with your stomach in and chest out. Don’t over-exaggerate this, just make sure you’re not slumped over and letting your stomach droop to the floor.

Your shoulders should be back slightly, and your head up. Many people have a subconscious slump that not only takes at least a half inch off their height, but it also makes them look timid and uncertain.

Alpha males walk with their heads held high, they shake hands with a firm grip, and they speak loudly and with authority. You want to be seen as an alpha male.

By doing all of these things correctly you will notice that people pay more attention when you speak, and tend to be more likely to stare at you as you enter a room. Women will almost certainly gravitate towards you if you’re oozing with confidence.

Over time this conscious attempt to convey confidence will turn into genuine self-confidence. By the time that happens, you won’t need to “pretend” to be confident, because your self-esteem will have skyrocketed.

Technique #2: Buy Clothes That Say You’re Confident

By this I am referring to wearing clothes that are a bit edgy, trendy or different.

You’ll need to be careful with this one, because choosing the wrong clothes can look downright awful. The trick is to find clothes that are both socially acceptable but also stylish and unique.

As an example, let’s say you work in an office environment. Everyone is used to seeing you wear a white shirt, blue blazer, and bland khaki pants.

Something “edgy” and trendy for this setting might be a dark purple shirt and a silver tie. Or better yet, how about a light-colored gray pinstripe suit with a white shirt, light green skinny tie, and a silver tie bar?

Even for weekends and casual occasions, you can still portray a sense of confidence with your fashion choice.

One great way to start is by going into a favorite store and identifying a clothing item you think is trendy and cool, but that you would never own yourself. There’s usually plenty of these in every store — maybe it’s a hat, a belt, sunglasses, etc.

Now, instead of saying “I don’t think I would look good in that,” try it on. Ask a friend, a store employee, or even a stranger what they think.

You’d probably be surprised at what can look good on you. Do this a few times and you’ll end up with a wardrobe that’s trendier, edgier, and conveys a stronger sense of confidence.

Wear these items regularly, and your confidence actually will improve.

6 Ways To Be More Handsome

October 22, 2012/1 Comment/in Dating /by Mark Belmont

A lot of guys seem to think that “being handsome” or being “good looking” is something that’s determined by genetics.

Many guys assume that if they practice basic hygiene, wear decent clothes, and choose a ‘trendy’ hairstyle, they’ve done everything in their power to look good and make themselves appealing to the opposite sex.

In reality, this general belief that you can’t make yourself better looking is a complete and utter fallacy.

There are literally hundreds of techniques you can use to improve your appearance and make yourself more handsome, and many of them are simply things you can do in the comfort of your own home.

In fact, there are so many things you can do and change in your everyday life to make yourself more handsome and more appealing to the ladies that I wrote an entire book on the subject.

It’s called The Handsome Factor Appearance Transformation System, and it’s essentially the ultimate guide for any man looking to transform himself from “dud” to “stud.”

Don’t worry, though — you don’t have to read my program to get in on these techniques. In this article, I’ll share with you 6 things you can do right now to enhance your sex appeal and be more handsome. Let’s get started:

Do Looks Actually Matter For Men?

You may have heard many claim that looks don’t matter for men. They argue that “women aren’t attracted to a man based on his looks, and even the ugliest dude can get laid by a super model.”

And:

Relatively small differences in a person’s looks translate regularly into big consequences in life. (Gordon L. Patzer, Ph.D. source)

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but that is completely a blatant lie. These “experts” were probably trying to sell you something when they said that women don’t care about a man’s appearance (if not, then they were just very misinformed!).

The reality is this: just like you would prefer to sleep with Megan Fox over that average-looking chick who works at Wal-Mart, women use physical appearance as one of their criteria when choosing a man.

If women truly didn’t care about appearance, why do you think Brad Pitt and Ryan Reynolds are on the cover of every women’s magazine? Why does the handsome football player always date the gorgeous cheerleader?

Now, don’t get me wrong: women care about a lot more than just a guy’s looks, and even Quasimodo the hunchback might be able to get laid by a super model if he put in enough time and effort.

But how much easier do you think it is for a good-looking guy to win over that super model? Simply put, being handsome is a massive advantage when it comes to dating or sleeping with hot girls.

The advantages of being handsome don’t stop at looks, either. Researchers have proven that appearance has an impact on every aspect of your life.

Numerous studies have revealed that better-looking people enjoy more successful careers, earn more money, have more friends, and tend to report higher overall levels of happiness.

Your appearance can even influence your chance of being found guilty in court!

Clearly, handsome men enjoy many advantages. So what can you do to improve your own looks and boost your sex appeal?

6 Ways To Make Yourself More Handsome

There are numerous things you can do to enhance your looks, but here are six that you can put into action right now from the comfort of your home:

1. Pick a Fashion Style and Stay Consistent

Even men who have an excellent fashion sense often make this common mistake: They mix and match various “styles” of clothing, either in a single outfit or on separate days. While this may not seem like a big deal, it can actually have a big impact on how others perceive your sense of style.

It’s best to have an overall idea of your “style” and only buy clothes that fit within it. That means that if you wear a sharp-looking blazer and a collared shirt, you should wear slacks or dark-colored fitted jeans to match, not a pair of ripped and faded cargo pants. It means that if you wear shorts and sandals on Monday, you should wear something casual on Tuesday, too — not a suit and tie.

2. Use Skin Care Products That Match Your Skin Type

Believe it or not, a lot of research goes into making skin care products (such as face wash cleansers and moisturizers). As a result, most well-known skin care brands make products for each of the three different skin types: oily, combination, and dry. Each has a different chemical makeup and will work best for those who have that particular skin type.

If you’re the type of guy who doesn’t like to use any skin care products at all, that’s fine. But when you do decide to buy products to make your skin look healthier and more vibrant, buy one that matches your skin type! (Don’t know what skin type you have? I’ve got a handy checklist to help you determine your skin type in my appearance transformation program.)

3. Use a Nose Hair Trimmer (Seriously)

Think a nose hair trimmer is only for wrinkly old men with tufts of hair growing out their ears? Think again. A nose hair trimmer is designed to cut hairs near the base without any exposed blades that might cut your skin or rip out the hairs in a painful manner.

That makes the nose hair trimmer a perfect tool for grooming hair around your eyebrows, sideburns, earlobes, and yes, your nose.

Hey, no-one said being handsome was going to be a manly experience, but little details like this can make a big difference to your overall sex appeal. And for less than $10 at your local pharmacy, why wouldn’t you want one in your bathroom cabinet?

4. Wear Clothes That Hide Your Genetic Flaws

Most of us do not enjoy flawless genetics. Some dudes are tall and lanky, others are short and fat in the midsection.

Whatever your imperfections are, there’s almost certain to be a particular clothing style that is more flattering than others.

By knowing which styles of clothing, which colors, and which items look best for your body type, you can hide your flaws without any real effort.

What type of things am I talking about? Well, overweight or pudgy guys should avoid wearing stripes, except for vertical pinstripes, which can actually help you look thinner.

Men packing a few extra pounds should also try to wear dark colors when possible as this makes your waistline look smaller. And if you happen to more closely resemble a basketball player than a sumo wrestler, you should avoid tight clothing, as this will only make you look lankier.

5. Never Have Bad Breath Ever Again

We all know someone who has chronic halitosis (aka bad breath). For most people, it’s something that can be easily cured.

The real keys to eliminating bad breath once and for all? Simple: Stay hydrated at all times; brush your teeth and floss twice daily, use a tongue scraper to clean your tongue every morning before leaving the house; and chew sugar-free gum after meals if you can’t brush your teeth.

For most men, adding the tongue scraper to their dental hygiene routine and ensuring that they’re well-hydrated will prevent chronic bad breath.

6. Choose a Hairstyle That Matches the Shape of Your Face

Did you know that there are a handful of different “facial shapes,” and that each shape is suited to specific hairstyles? If not, you should consider taking a look at my book, where I outline all of the different face shapes (and show you how to identify which one you have) and describe which hairstyles suit each different shape.

If your face has an oblong shape, for instance, you’ll want to avoid spiky or tall hairstyles that accentuate the long and slender appearance of your face. If your face is more square, you can definitely opt for a spiky or messy hairstyle, but you probably don’t want to opt for a buzz-cut.

Knowing roughly what your facial shape is and picking a hairstyle that compliments it will help add to your overall look, even if you may not notice the differences at first glance.

The Devil’s In The Details

As I mentioned above, your appearance has a huge influence on many aspects of life, especially when it comes to dating and sex. So why not give yourself the best possible chance of success? Why not do everything you can to make sure you’re a handsome stud every time you walk out the door?

In the end, it all comes to down the details — knowing the little tricks and techniques that you can incorporate into your daily routine to maximize your sex appeal and get an advantage over the rest of the pack.

When you add up all these simple details, the results are often significant.

For hundreds of other at-home techniques and methods you can use to make yourself as handsome and attractive as your genetics will allow, check out my website and sign up for my free style newsletter to get daily tips and suggestions.

And as always, if you want to comment on this article or offer your own style & fashion tips, please use the comments section below!

Online Dating Advice For Men

October 21, 2012/1 Comment/in Dating /by Derek Lamont

For women, online dating is like picking low-hanging fruit off a tree – it’s bloody, darn easy if you set your sights relatively low.

However, for men, it’s a completely different ballgame. In fact, the vast majority of men who try setting up a profile at E-Harmony or Plenty of Fish give up within the first few weeks of online dating!

If you’re a guy having a hard time getting attractive women to reply to your messages, then you should probably take a few minutes to check out these online dating tips that are proven to give your dating experience a huge boost (even if you’re a seasoned, online dating vet!).

Your Dating Profile

This is an area that a lot of guys completely ignore. Remember, when you message a woman, she is going to check out your profile before deciding to message you back. In many ways, your profile is just as important as what you say in the actual message.

This is an example of a douchebag. This = chick repellent.

So what makes a good profile? A few things, but having great pictures is a big one. In other words, you can’t have pictures like this guy on the right here …

Do you know what women think when they see a picture like that? Two words: Douche Bag. That means no topless mirror pictures that are shot from your crappy old iPhone. And, this may go without saying, that also means no “duck face” as well.

Photos That Work

So what pictures help you look like an attractive male? There are a ton of different types of pictures that you can use to convey sexual value, but one of the best kinds of pictures that you can use is what I like to call “Social Proofing Pictures.” That means having a picture with you and a bunch of your friends having a good time.

See, a big problem women have with guys online is that they come off as “creepy.” There is definitely no shortage of guys out there that give off that good old “Jack The Ripper” look.

Hint: Women aren’t attracted to the idea of getting murdered. So one of the best ways to give off a much less “creepy” vibe is to prove to women that you have friends. The more friends, the better. And here’s the kicker, it’s even more effective if you have pictures of you with your hot chick friends.

No, don’t have pictures of you tongue wrestling them or take a shot of tequila off their belly buttons, but just have normal, smiling pictures of yourself with a bunch of beautiful people. Oh, and make sure you’re wearing nice clothes, but I guess that’s for a completely different article completely.

What To Send That Beautiful Lady on Match.Com

What you message a girl is just as important as your online dating profile.

“Wow, you’re so hot, I want you so badly … message me back, please!”

“Can I take you out on a date? I’ll buy!”

What do these messages have in common? You’re right. They completely suck.

Those are what I like to call Pitiful Messages. Do you know what those messages are actually saying to beautiful women? They’re saying:

“I am a completely worthless, low quality guy who doesn’t know how to really please women. I’m just pathetic. Don’t message me back, and if you do message me back, just do it out of pity. I also suck really badly in bed.”

That’s what women really get out of those Pitiful Messages.

So you’ve got to put more effort into not only compelling her to actually open your message and read, but to actually message you back as well. Those Pitiful Messages don’t do anything but make women hit the “delete” button, only to never be seen again.

Read Their Profile — All Of It!

Want a woman to get back to you? Well then put in the time and effort. Take a look at their profile and see what their interests are. Then use that material in your message to them.

For example, say you’re cruising Match.com and you come across a pretty lady that says Shakespeare plays are a great interest to her.

Instead of saying, “What’s up?” say something like, “Good taste. My favorite’s Macbeth. Killing a king is never a good idea, don’t you think?”

This girl totally wants to get picked up … by you!

See how this message differs from what 99 percent of men send on online dating websites? By reading a woman’s profile, you’ll be able to accrue enough information to make her want to message you back.

These are just a few tips that you can use to sky rocket your online dating campaign, but there are tons of other things you can do to turn your computer into a chick-reeling machine!

6 Tips On How To Talk To A Girl

October 21, 2012/5 Comments/in Dating /by Derek Lamont

You see an attractive girl. She’s looking at you. You smile at each other. But what do you do next?

How on Earth are you going to get a conversation going?

Well, you’re in luck because what I’m about to tell you is advice that a lot of men will never know in their lifetime. It is the Art of Conversation!

Yes, talking to a woman is where all the magic happens. And, depending how good of a conversationalist you are, it is where a woman decides to sleep with you or not. If you’re a smooth enough talker, you can get anyone to do just about anything.

Ever heard of a guy named Grigori Rasputin? He was some random, crazy Russian dude who seduced the Russian Queen during Tsarist Russia in the early 1900’s. This guy was so smooth, that he actually convinced the queen that he was a mystical healer that could use magic to heal her sick son. Let me preface this by saying, Rasputin was one ugly motherlover.

Obviously, the guy was full of it, but he was as Usher says, “A True Player For Real.”

Here is a list of things you can do to really get a conversation going with women!

1. Speak Slowly!

Yes, when somebody talks too quickly, they just look nervous, high-strung, and to women, this is a huge turn-off.

See, hot chicks are always used to guys all nervous and weak around them, so the slower you talk, the more calm and collected you’ll see, and the sooner you’ll be in bed with her.

2. Don’t Lean In So Much

See, guys who aren’t that good with women make it so obvious that they’re interested. They’ll lean in and talk to a girl. They’ll try and get as close as possible, but sorry to say, this just turns women off. Learn to lean back while conversing with women.

3. Look Into Her Eyes

Take a page out of Medusa, man! Conversation is all about engaging your audience, and part of getting a girl to engage is to look into her eyes while you’re talking to her.

4. Smile!

This is the easiest thing to do. Smiling is psychologically proven to make people feel more at ease.

See, beautiful women get hit on a million times a day, and most of these guys are try-hard, nervous wrecks. You need to come off as a fun and cool guy, and smiling helps you do this.

5. Touch Her but Not In a Creepy Way

Don’t be afraid to playfully whack her or hold her hand for a split second. If you watch guys who are really good with women, you’ll see that they touch them often. But they touch them in ways women want to be touched. This means no groping (yet), no touching of her more intimate areas, and no touching for a prolonged period of time. Just engage in light-hearted, fun touching.

6. Talk About Things That Interest Her

That means don’t talk about video games, cars, or the hockey game (unless, of course, any of those genuinely interest her). Talk about social life, friends, relationships, couples, and life goals.

Tell her about your ambitions. Tell her about all the cool places you’ve been. Take her to that fantasy fun world and never look back.

But look. The Art of Conversation isn’t all that simple. There’s actually just so much more to it.

And once you master it, it’ll almost be like you’ll never be lonely. It’s not just about having more women; it’s about having more friends and better relationships with people in general.

It’s an incredibly useful skill to have!

Attention Men: Increase Sex Appeal by Hiding Flaws

October 15, 2012/in Dating /by Mark Belmont

Most men are not perfectly proportioned. We’re made in all different shapes and sizes: some of us are skinny, some of us are overweight, some of us are short, some are tall, and so on. Thankfully, there are a variety of techniques you can use to hide any flaws in your physique.

Overweight? Be Careful Here

If you’re overweight, don’t be fooled into thinking that looser clothing is better. Even for heavyset men, having clothes that fit properly is important.

If you have baggy clothes, it can actually further accentuate your extra weight. Of course, clothes that are too tight will also be unflattering. The trick is to find items that aren’t baggy, but don’t cling to your skin and show every curve.

When it comes to suits, men carrying a few extra pounds should avoid clothes with horizontal or diagonal stripes. These make you look wider. The only stripes that work for overweight men are vertical pinstripes. Similarly for casual shirts, items with very large emblems or designs can also make you look bigger. Go for shirts and jackets with small patterns or logos.

The Science of Color Coordinating

In terms of the color of your clothing, try to stay consistent. Wear similarly colored shirts and pants. If you’re wearing black pants, for example, wear a black or dark blue shirt. Then, opt for a different colored sweater, blazer, or jacket over top. This can really help hide weight.

Also, stick with dark colours whenever possible, as they tend to be more forgiving (plus they look better when paired together).

Take the time to find pants that fit correctly! Although every man should have clothes that fit properly, it’s especially important for overweight men.

Wear low-rise jeans and pants that sit on your hips, not your waist. Avoid slim and tight-fitting jeans or pants. Opt instead for looser fitting or wide-leg styles, which will look more proportionate.

And If You’re Short …

If you’re a bit on the short side and want to appear taller, there are a few things you can do. To begin with, when wearing a suit, try wearing vertical stripes.

Like overweight men, you should also try to stick to a single shade of clothing. Wearing a different colored top and bottom will accentuate your lack of height. Dark colors tend to be a better choice for short men, as these too can help make you appear a bit taller.

Snug-fitting clothes tend to exaggerate your height. Finding clothes that fit properly is especially important for shorter men.

Don’t buy shirts that are too long, either, or else you may have to tuck in a lot of material which will look bulky and make you appear shorter. Whenever possible, leave your shirt un-tucked.

Don’t be ashamed to buy big, bulky shoes or thick insoles. By buying shoes with a large sole you can immediately add at least an inch to your height.

If you’re really short, there are even “lifts” you can buy to add height. Since height is something that many women find extremely attractive, lifts can be a worthwhile investment if you’re quite short.