Whether you love him or you hate him, you’ve got to admit, Obama can speak (even though he doesn’t write all of his speeches). And yes, these speaking techniques are definitely learn-able. And I can promise you they’ll sky-rocket your social life.
Speaking is an art. It’s a craft that, once mastered, you can use to convince almost anyone of anything.
In fact, speaking is probably one of the most important social skills a person can have.
And speaking isn’t just about words. It’s about presentation, body language, and facial expression. It is said that 93 percent of communication is non-verbal, and this makes complete sense. Sometimes how you say something tells people a lot more than what is said.
In fact, the art of speaking can be so powerful that it can push people to do some pretty ridiculous things.
Do you remember a guy by the name of Marshall Applewhite? He was the leader of the cult movement, “Heaven’s Gate.” In 1997, he convinced 30 some odd members to commit suicide in attempt to move on to some weird astro-physical plane.
In other words, the dude was just crazy, yet he was able to convince people through his words to take their own lives. Pretty messed up, right?
Luckily, today we’re not going to talk about how you can start your own cult following and convince others of mass suicide, but we are going to talk about some proven speaking techniques that you can use with your partner or on dates to dramatically increase your response rate.
1. Speak Slowly
Yes, portraying confidence is all about being calm and collected — you can convey this by slowing down your speaking speed.
2. Eye Contact
Looking into a person’s eyes when you’re speaking to them dramatically increases engagement.
3. Lean Back
If you’re sitting down and you’re speaking to somebody, lean back. You’ll look more confident.
4. Use slight hand gestures
Remember, 93 percent of communication is non-verbal, so remember to “talk” with your hands. Don’t do it too much, but slight hand gestures can make a huge difference.
5. Touch Your Partner
Yes, you can engage your date by touching him or her. When you say something funny, touch him or her when they laugh. This will help them associate your touch with laughter.