When we first start dating our lovers, we usually go through a period called the “Honeymoon Phase” – this first few months gets characterized as the most passionate time in a couple’s relationship.
During this time, you might be doing everything that you can to impress him or her… and in doing so, you’ll often make sure that you text your partner that PERFECT text message.
Sometimes you’ll even pore through your keyboard for 10 minutes just to find the right words! Sound familiar?
But as time goes on, this sort of dynamic changes… you start texting your partner less and less and the contents of your messages become stale and boring.
There’s nothing wrong with this! Long term relationships change and the kind of bond that you share with your spouse becomes deeper, more stable… and subsequently, less chaotic and exciting.
But don’t forget that you can excite your spouse in ways no one else can… and texting is a really easy way to do this.
Here are the five types of text messages that you should never forget to use on your spouse from time to time.
1.) The “Thinking About You” Text
These are the kinds of messages that spouses in long term marriages don’t really send anymore… but they can have a huge impact in the way your significant other views you moving forward. Here are some examples of this kind of text:
I know I don’t tell you this often enough, but I’m so grateful to have you in my life. Just thought of that today.
I know you’re busy at work, but I just wanted to let you know that I’m thinking of you.
I can’t wait to see you beautiful face later!
Hope that work project isn’t getting to you! I hope you’re having a good day.
The great thing about texting something like this is that it takes seven seconds to send but it can have a massive impact on your marriage immediately.
Don’t believe me? Then give it a shot!
2.) The “Love” Text
I’m constantly reminded everyday why I fell in love with you. Thank you.
Your spouse knows you love them but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t tell them whenever possible.
This text is especially targeted for married couples that really don’t say the “L” word enough to each other!
I’m so thankful that we fell in love with each other. I can’t imagine my life without you.
Just wanted to say I love you.
These kinds of text can work wonders on your marriage. So do yourself a favour and try one of them out!
3.) The Attraction Text
Let’s make tonight all about you…
The “Attraction Text” is an important one. Over time, it’s normal for a marriage to lose its spark.
Sometimes a well-timed intimate text can give your marriage an injection of sexual energy that it needs! Here are some texts that are saucy without being too graphic:
Let’s have some fun after work? 😉
This morning was so much fun. When can I do that again to you?
Clearly, the possibilities here are endless… so do yourself and really get descriptive for your spouse. You’ll be thankful you did… and so will your partner!
4.) The “Humour” Text
Laughter is often described as the most powerful kind of aphrodisiac… and when you’ve been with someone for so long, often times we can forget this.
Remember when you were first dating and passionately in love? You would do what you could to make your spouse laugh and smile… and maybe you still do!
But texting is one of the easiest ways to accomplish this goal… and one of the best ways to do this is to send your spouse funny pictures, memes, and animated GIF’s.
So copy and paste your favourite joke and send it to your spouse. There are also animated GIF keyboards that you can use to send your spouse some funny clips.
Instagram and Reddit are two really great resources to find some funny memes that you and your spouse will both enjoy.
These kinds of jokes are especially great when your spouse is having a bad day. So do whatever you can to make sure that you give your significant other the kind of humorous love and attention that they deserve!
5.) The “Apology” Text
I’m sorry…you were right last night
The last kind of text might be the most important one… but only in the right situation. Arguments and disagreements are inevitable in a marriage… but it’s how you HANDLE your conflicts that define how strong your bond will be moving forward.
And one of the most difficult things to do during a conflict is to apologize to your spouse when you know you’re wrong.
Now, usually apologies need to happen in person… but sometimes when it comes to small arguments, a simple text can do the trick!
I’m sorry about the night before… can I make it up to you later?
It was my fault we fought last night… I’ll always keep trying to make sure we have a solid understanding between you and I.
Apologizing in a marriage can be one of the most difficult things to do… especially if you’re a prideful person.
But it takes intellectual honesty and courage to admit that you’re wrong… and this is one of the most attractive and powerful things that you can do in marriage.