• X
  • Facebook
  • Youtube
  • Mail
  • Home
  • About LoveLearnings
  • Training Programs
  • Quizzes
  • Support
  • Contact
LoveLearnings
  • Dating
    • Dating
      • Dating Tips
      • Pickup & Seduction
      • Online Dating
      • Understanding Men
      • Understanding Women
      • View All…
    • Menu - Dating - Attract A Man
      • How To Attract A Man
    • Menu - Dating - Pickup article
      • Guys Only: How To Pick Up Girls
    • Menu - Dating - What Men Want article
      • Ladies Only: What Men Want In A Woman
  • Relationships
    • Relationships
      • Conflict Resolution
      • Cheating & Infidelity
      • Improve Your Relationship
      • Commitment Issues
      • Long Distance
      • View All…
    • Menu - Relationships - Healthy Relationships article
      • Simple Steps To Build The Perfect Relationship
    • Menu - Relationships - Fear of Commitment article
      • How To Overcome “Fear of Commitment” Issues
    • Menu - Relationships - Long Distance article
      • Long Distance Relationship Survival Guide
  • Breakups
    • Breakups
      • Get Your Ex Back
      • Moving On
      • Dealing With An Ex
      • Breakup Survival
      • View All…
    • Menu - Breakups - Quiz
      • QUIZ: Will Your Ex Take You Back?
    • Menu - Breakups - Ex Back article
      • How To Quickly Move On After A Breakup
    • Menu - Breakups - Move On article
      • How To Get Your Ex Back (And Keep Them)
  • Marriage
    • Marriage
      • Marriage Problems
      • Improve Your Relationship
      • Cheating & Infidelity
      • Communication
      • View All…
    • Menu - Marriage - Quiz
      • QUIZ: Can Your Marriage Be Saved?
    • Menu - Marriage - Save Marriage article
      • How To Save A Broken Marriage
    • Menu - Marriage - Arguments article
      • Resolving Arguments With Your Spouse
  • Divorce
    • Divorce
      • Save Your Marriage
      • Stop Your Divorce
      • Dealing With Divorce
      • Marriage Counseling
      • View All…
    • Menu - Divorce - Save marriage article
      • How To Save Your Marriage
    • Menu - Divorce - Counseling article
      • Marriage Counselling: Does It Work?
    • Menu - Divorce - marriage Quiz
      • QUIZ: Can Your Marriage Be Saved?
  • Search
  • Menu Menu
  • Home
  • Dating
  • Relationships
  • Breakups
  • Marriage
  • Divorce
  • Quizzes
  • News & Research
  • Health & Safety
  • Just For Fun
  • About LoveLearnings
    • About
    • Training Programs
    • Customer Support
    • Community
    • Contact Us
    • Privacy Policy
You are here: Home1 / Relationships2 / 5 Signs You Shouldn’t Be With Someone (Even If You Love Them)
Black and white photo of couple standing in bushes, looking hopelessly into the distance.

5 Signs You Shouldn’t Be With Someone (Even If You Love Them)

By Amy North

Women's Dating Coach

facebook youtube

Saying goodbye to a significant other is hard, and what makes it even tougher is when you’re still in love with that person. Still, sometimes love isn’t enough and there are people who simply aren’t meant for you.

If you’re heart is saying one thing and you’re head another, then look for these signs to see if your partner isn’t the one for you. It may be a hard reality to face, but just because you love someone doesn’t mean you’re a match made in heaven.

1. You Want Different Things

Him smiling, her frowning.If you and your partner have very different life goals then you may not be as good a match as you once thought. In the beginning of a relationship it can be tough to pinpoint differences, and it’s rare to put a lot of thought into where those clashing wants will take you. Over time however, once subtle deviants can evolve into game changers.

Let’s say for instance that you want to travel the world and live freely. Your partner, on the other hand, wants to have a stable job and children. Like odd puzzle pieces, those two wants don’t fit together.

Why? Because you can’t have both lifestyles, at least not at the same time. Since you can’t expect someone to give up their dreams for you, this is a sign that you shouldn’t be with this person.

Even though it may hurt, you should cut ties so that both of you have the opportunity to life the lives you’ve always wanted, without regret or fear of missing out.

2. You Feel Like You’re Not Going Anywhere

If you feel like you’re living in The Truman Show or that your relationship has turned into a routine then your partner may not be for you. Since relationships are suppose to promote growth both as individuals and as a couple, if things are feeling stagnant then this could be a sign that you need to move on.

3. You Have No Sexual Chemistry

Close up of couple's lips.While sex is only one component of a relationship, it is a big one that’s necessary for having a healthy relationship. Attraction is key to keeping couples together, but sadly those feelings can dissipate when sexual needs go unanswered.

If your sex life is less than “okay,” then you need to look at the bigger picture. No matter how much you love your special someone, having sexual chemistry is essential.

That’s not to say that sex has to be great all the time though, after all, there will inevitability be less than orgasmic encounters. If however, the chemistry has long left the relationship then it may be impossible to keep the spark alive. 

4. You’re Constantly Making Sacrifices

Relationships are a partnership, or at least they should be. If you find yourself giving time and time again, and you’re getting little in return, then it’s time to step back and reevaluate the situation.

Sacrificing yourself can come in many forms – emotionally, financially, mentally and physically. Whether you’re constantly paying your partner’s way through life, giving up your plans for theirs or even something as simple as only eating the foods they want, sooner or later things will spiral out of control and  love alone won’t be able to save your relationship. Partners are meant to be equals.

5. Your Partner Is the Be-All and End-All 

Couple walking on the beach.It’s easy to get swept away in love, but if your partner is the total essence of your life then it may be time to pull back. As amazing as overwhelming, passionate love can seem, being obsessed with someone to the point where they consume all of you is never a healthy sign.

If you find yourself needing your partner (rather than wanting them), or unable to function without them by your side, then whoa darlin’, you’re in too deep and it’s time to come back up for air.

Codependency in a relationship is never healthy.

 

Amy North

Amy North, BA, BSc, is a woman’s best friend. If you’re searching for the man of your dreams, or you want make your boyfriend stay devoted to you, then Amy North is your gal! Amy's incredibly popular YouTube channel, which boasts over 340,000 subscribers and 20+ million views, helps women learn how to get what they want out of their relationships. Her best-selling program, The Devotion System, reveals a number of psychological ‘hot buttons’ that make any man 'tick', and teaches readers how to use simple techniques and phrases to make any man love you.

facebook youtube
Tags: attraction, breakup, love, romance

Recent Posts

  • couple keeping their distanceWhy Chasing An Avoidant Ex NEVER Works
  • man-kissing-woman-on-foreheadHow Long It REALLY Takes Your Ex To Get Over You According To Sci…
  • man-ignoring-womanWhat Dating An Avoidant Is Really Like
  • men pulling away from herWhy Avoidants Will Always Ghost You
  • man hugging and kissing womanThe One Thing An Avoidant Can Never Ask For
  • couple-on-bench-far-apartWhat Fearful Avoidants Are Really Afraid Of
  • dismissive-exYour Dismissive Ex Misses You If They Do This
  • man-and-woman-arguingWhy Your Ex’s Drama Is A Good Sign

Find Us On YouTube

© 2020 LoveLearnings Media Inc
#300 - 1095 McKenzie Avenue
Victoria, BC, Canada   V8P 2L5

Free Quizzes | News & Research | Health & Safety | Just For Fun

About | Products | Community | Support | Contact | Terms | Privacy

  • X
  • Facebook
  • Youtube
  • Mail
Scroll to top