Is a breakup always forever?
Hardly. In fact, it’s quite common for relationships to go through rough patches and even breakups only to come back stronger than ever.
Here’s how you know that your breakup is only temporary and you’ll be back together soon.
One question I’m asked constantly by viewers like you and by my coaching clients is, “how can I tell if my breakup is only temporary?”
It’s a good question. How do you tell if your breakup is not going to last? How do you know if your ex is going to take you back?
7 Signs Your Breakup Is Only Temporary
Here are the signs to look for if you’re still holding out hope for your relationship. Your ex might display just one or any combination of these signs.
Sign #1: Your ex is sending mixed messages.
If your ex has been giving you the “hot and cold” treatment since breaking up, that is actually often a strong indication that he or she is internally conflicted about the decision to break up… and may soon give in to their feelings and decide to take you back.
What do I mean by “mixed messages”? Well, for example, if your ex sends you a late-night text saying “I miss you” one day, and then the next day they completely ignore you or tell you they never want to talk to you again… that’s a mixed message.
Again, these type of back-and-forth signals that your ex is sending are almost always an indication that your ex is having second thoughts about breaking up.
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It can be because they initially thought that going your separate ways was the right thing to do, but now they’re struggling emotionally with the breakup and fighting an internal battle with themselves trying to decide if they made a mistake breaking up with you.
I’ve made another previous video on this exact topic, which you can watch by clicking the pop-up banner up in the corner here, or by clicking on the link that I’ll put in the description below.
Sign #2: Your ex is contacting you frequently.
This is another strong indication that your ex isn’t fully committed to the breakup… or at least, they’re not 100% confident that they’re ready to let you walk out of their life.
If they’re reaching out to you on their own frequently, especially if it’s not for any reason other than to “catch up” or “see how you’re doing”, then clearly they still need and want you in their life.
Sign #3: Your ex gets emotional.
Think about it for a second… if you had broken up with someone and you were totally confident it was the right decision — if you were truly over them, and ready to move on without looking back — would you still be emotional when thinking about that person?
Would you break into tears when you saw that person, or tell him or her about how much heartache the breaking is causing you? Probably not.
For that reason, your ex becoming emotional around you after breaking up — or even just showing any kind of pain and loneliness in general — is a strong indicator of someone who hasn’t moved on. They might be so emotionally affected by the breakup that they might break down and beg for you come back.
Whatever happens, it’s never easy dealing with a temporary breakup. You’ll have to relearn trust and rebuild the connection so you can move forward together.
Sign #4: Your ex is still angry at you.
This is a weird one, and a lot of people are skeptical when I tell them that an angry ex is often actually a good thing if you want to get back together. In my many years of experience as a breakup coach, however, it’s become clear to me that this is often a very positive sign.
Why? Well, it’s pretty simple…
If your ex is still angry at you, they’re still emotionally invested in you and your time together.
Now, of course, there are some exceptions to this. If you did something truly terrible to your ex — whether you cheated on them or said some really horrible things to your ex — then their anger probably isn’t a good thing.
But if there wasn’t anything that bad that led to your breakup, and yet your ex continues to hang on to little arguments and disagreements long after breaking up… that’s usually an indication that they’re still thinking about you regularly, and emotionally invested in you and your past relationship.
Sign #5: You scored 75 or higher on my free quiz.
I hope you’ve probably already taken my free quiz to find out whether you still have a chance to get back with your ex. And if you did indeed take that quiz, and your score was 75 or higher, that’s a very good sign that he or she is also interested in getting back together… or at least thinking about it.
If you haven’t already taken the quiz, do it now. It only takes 5 minutes, and you’ll see a detailed results report as well as your score out of 100. The quiz results will give you a very good indication of whether your ex is interested in taking you back.
A score above 70 or so is definitely cause for optimism, and anything above 75 suggests your ex is missing you and possibly wanting you back.
Sign #6: Your ex is asking mutual friends about you and what you’ve been up to since the breakup.
You would be surprised about how often this actually happens to my coaching clients so, you might be in the same boat if you’ve heard from mutual friends that your ex is asking about you and curious about how you’ve been doing since breaking up.
If this is the case for you, then that’s yet another very positive sign. If he or she was done with you and had fully moved on, chances are they’re not going to care very much what you’re up to now.
Sign #7: Your ex gets jealous when they find out you’re dating again or seeing someone new.
If your ex gets at all jealous and angry when they learn that you’ve been dating again, or that you’re already with someone new, that’s a surefire indication they’re not over you.
Even people with an incredibly jealous personality in general will stop caring about this kind of thing when they’ve fully moved on.
If your ex is getting jealous for really any reason after your breakup… that’s a very clear indication that they still care about you and aren’t ready to watch you walk out of their life and into someone else’s arms.
So, if this describes your situation, then you have plenty of reason to be optimistic about your chances of getting back together.