Why do the guys you like never seem to like you?
What’s the Tinder secret that every girl seems to have but you?
Why do guys swipe left and how can you make them swipe right?
You’re on Tinder but every time you swipe left, nothing. I’m going to tell you exactly why guys swipe left and how to use that to your advantage in any online dating
Why You Aren’t Getting Any Good Matches
Are you just not pretty enough? While looks are often a factor, the real reasons guys swipe left usually has more to do with your profile than you as a person.
I’m going to give you some reasons that guys swipe left so you can know what to avoid.
Tinder Pictures Top Tips
Tinder is a visual medium. If you’re not choosing your photos carefully, you just might turn off the perfect guy. Here are some things to avoid when you’re choosing photos for Tinder.
Photos without friends
This may surprise some of you because people say that you should avoid photos with friends. I disagree completely.
You shouldn’t make the guy try to figure out which one you are in your photos so don’t do ENTIRELY group shots.
But make sure that one or two towards the end include some of your friends so he knows that you’re sociable and fun.
I’m sure I don’t have to tell you, the front facing camera can be unflattering.
Make sure you have at least a few photos outside doing something besides posing for the camera. Guys want to see the different sides of your personality, not your dirty mirror.
Make sure your photos are recent. If you have a few from this new years and one from the Shrek premiere, you’re doing it wrong. Only keep photos that are less than a year old. If your hairstyle, weight, or style changes like crazy between photos then you’re going to turn off a lot of guys because they’ll have no sense of what you really look like.
Pictures that don’t look like you
A bad apple can ruin the whole bunch. It’s good to put your best picture first but make sure your looks don’t vary wildly between pics.
If you look like a smokeshow in your first pic then make sure you aren’t wearing dirty sweats in your last one.
This contrast can make for an immediate swipe left. You’d probably be better off with just the dirty sweatpants pic than you would with both pictures. This is because if he gets excited you look a certain way and then you suddenly look quite different, he might react without thinking and swipe left.
Tinder decisions are made in the blink in the eye. Err on the side of fewer pictures if you’re in doubt but make sure to include at least three.
Building the Perfect Tinder Bio
Next to photos, your bio is the most important thing on your Tinder profile. If you’re trying to avoid left swipes, here are the things to leave out.
“I’m looking for someone to go on adventures with”
“Long walks on the beach”
“I love to watch netflix and to hang out with my friends”
Keep all of the above out of your bio!
Your bio should be full of things that set you apart. Look at your bio. Could it describe almost anyone? What makes you unique and interesting? Start with that.
“Don’t just say hey”–Sure, “hey” isn’t a great opening line but putting this in your bio says more about you than you might like. It suggests that you think it’s this guy’s job to impress you and make you respond with some witty line.
While that may actually be true, you don’t want to start things off by being so blatant about it.
“You need to be 6’, have a BMW, own your own home, etc”–A list of boxes to check isn’t sexy. That’s why no one ever hooks up at the doctor’s office. You can figure these things out after a brief conversation with a guy.
Don’t let good guys get away because they’re turned off by your checklist! Remember, you’re looking for the guy you want, not listing the ones you don’t.
If your bio includes things like “I don’t know why guys match with me and then never say anything” or “Looking for guys who aren’t total jerks” or anything like that then you’re going to look bitter.
Even if you’re just trying to be up front and you don’t mean it to sound that way. Remember this is the only glance he’s getting at your personality aside from the photos.
I don’t want to tell you to hide your true feelings but online dating profiles are no place to be super negative.
Unless you’re only looking for a guy who’s into depression and darkness, I’d keep things light and positive.
Think of it this way: even if that’s your personality, if you met a cute guy at the bar you probably wouldn’t start by talking about how much the world sucks. That’s no way to attract a man.
I get it. You’re trying to weed out the creeps and only match with guys who are looking for something serious.
But guess what, the guy who is just looking for a hookup has already swiped right.
He’s busy taking dick pics, not reading your bio.
Meanwhile the guy you might actually like is reading your bio and just seeing negativity. Negativity is a huge reason why guys swipe left. This probably won’t turn off a lot of guys but I’d avoid it as it’s not going to make guys who are just looking for a hookup stay away.
Playing the Tinder Game–Defeat The Dreaded Algorithm
There’s a chance that you aren’t getting any matches simply because of the Tinder algorithm. No one knows exactly how the tinder algorithm works but we do know a few things. Tinder matches users using a complex set of criteria.
One of these is your internal Tinder ranking. Essentially tinder keeps a score of how valuable or good of a user you are and shows you to more people based on that. So if everyone swipes right on you then tinder is going to show you to more people.
If no one swipes right then you’re going to be buried way down the pile. We know that If you always swipe right or left, tinder tends to rank you lower as it doesn’t think you’re seriously looking to date.
I think about it this way: Tinder wants users who are using their service regularly and having a good experience.
So if you don’t talk to any of your matches, if you don’t respond to messages, if you do a lot of unmatching. Or (obviously) if you get reported/blocked/unmatched all the time then tinder will start to think you’re not a very valuable profile and give you the boot.
So try to check Tinder regularly and respond to messages. The more you do, the more matches you’ll get.
This also means you should be selective with your swipes. Ask yourself “If this guy messaged me, would I want to talk to him?” If not, don’t bother swiping right. You only want the guys you like to like you.
But I do recommend you being more open about who you match with, talk to, and go out with.
It’s good to be selective but if you’re open to new types of guys you’ll often be surprised at the connections you can make.