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3 Reasons Second Marriages Succeed

Don’t marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can’t live without. – James Dobson

Second marriages are significantly more likely to stand the test of time, according to a recent article in the Daily Mail.

As someone who regularly deals with married couples in a clinical counselling setting, that doesn’t surprise me at all. There are a number of reasons why second marriages tend to work out more often, but I’ve identified three of the most common….

  1. Experience gained in the first marriage.  It goes without saying, but you have to be married and divorced once before you can be eligible to have a “second marriage”… and that entire ordeal often provides invaluable experience that you can use and apply to a second marriage scenario. During a first marriage, many people learn things about themselves and their preferences in a partner that they weren’t aware of before being married.  These lessons (and, more often than not, mistakes) can help you make better decisions when committing to a second marriage.
  2. elderly happy coupleA desire to get it right the second time around.  Again, this might seem obvious, but there’s nothing more motivating than getting older and feeling like you need to “get it right” this time around. Having already failed at marriage once, most people tend to have a “do it right” mentality when it comes to re-marrying. Not only does the experience of the first marriage give useful insight and experience, it also provides a life lesson about what it’s like when marriage fails… and that can be a motivating factor when it comes to finding a partner that will allow a happy and long-lasting second marriage.
  3. Less pressure.  First marriages can sometimes become somewhat ‘rushed’ because one or both of the involved parties feels a need to settle down and begin a family before they get ‘too old’.  This can often pressure people into making rushed decisions or leaping into marriage before they’re fully ready. When it comes to second marriages, there are no guarantees that you’ll feel any less pressure… but more often than not, there is less of a ‘time-sensitive’ approach to marriage, and more time to consider whether you’re both right for one another and ready for a lifelong commitment.

There’s nothing overtly glamorous about a second marriage, because it means that your first try at ‘true love’ ended in heartbreak… but, at the same time, people who have recently experienced divorce shouldn’t stress about whether or not they’ll ever find love again.

Once you do find love for a second time, it’s more likely to last than the first time around.

About Brad Browning

Brad Browning, BA, is the world’s premiere breakup & marriage coach. Brad Browning’s The Ex Factor Guide, a program that teaches men and women how to win back their ex lovers, has sold thousands of copies worldwide. Brad has also released a similar program called Mend The Marriage that teaches married couples how to revitalize the spark, romance, and desire that’s been long forgotten. To top it all off, Brad’s YouTube channel has over 50 thousand subscribers and almost 7 million views, making his videos the most-watched and liked videos on YouTube!

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