Trying to get back into the dating game but having no luck? Has your confidence run dry? Does even thinking about another first date make you feel like crying?
No judgment here. Take these small steps to make a huge change in your outlook and your dating life.
1. Get out more
Dating is about more than leaving the house but it’s a great first step. Trying new things and pushing your boundaries builds confidence that will transfer over to your dating life.
After you’ve been skydiving, suddenly a first date seems like a walk in the park. Worried you’ll have nothing to talk about? Your latest Tough Mudder is a great place to start.
If nothing else, you’ll get some awesome pics for Tinder.
2. Find your fit
This may seem obvious but it’s so often overlooked. Ladies, you may be wearing the wrong bra without even knowing it.
A recent study showed that 80% of women wear the wrong sized bra!
Wearing the wrong-sized bra doesn’t only effect how your body looks. It can change your posture, how you move (or don’t move), and your confidence.
Luckily there are now online tools that will help you find the proper fit. So get sized today. You’ll be surprised at how differently you feel when you’re wearing a bra that’s designed for your body.
3. Flip the script
Are your first dates always a drink at the local pub? Instead of just having the normal coffee, dinner or movie date, suggest something unorthodox. Karaoke can tell you a lot about a person. They say never marry someone until you’ve done a white water rafting trip together. Why not get it out of the way on the first date?
Think of something you’ve always wanted to try. It’ll probably be even better with company.
Doing an unusual activity together can reveal parts your personality that they’d normally never see on a first date. It also bonds the two of you more than a latte ever will.
4. Know it’s normal to be nervous
It’s okay to be nervous. Guess what, your date is too! Remember that the reason you’re nervous is because this is an exciting opportunity that could lead to something really great. Anxiety is a sign that you’re going past your comfort zone and growing as a person. Go you!
Remember that you’re not here to win his heart, or even get a second date. You’re here to get to know him, find out if you two have chemistry, and–most importantly–have a good time.
5. Practice, practice, practice
Dating is like anything else. The more you do it, the easier it gets. The less you do it, the harder it seems.
So say yes to more dates, let your friends set you up, or get on a dating app. Even if it turns out these dates aren’t any good, you’ll be more comfortable when the right guys comes around. And when you’re most comfortable, you’re the most yourself.
Plus, sometimes it’s the guys you thought you weren’t interested in that will surprise you the most.
There you have it, three tips that will get you out of the dating doldrums and into the love life you want.