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Should I Be Friends with My Ex?

You’re in the midst of a breakup and you’re going through a whirlwind of emotions. How will you be able to survive daily life without your ex? You’ve become so accustomed to having them by your side.

And then, out of the blue, your ex says, “But I still want to be friends.”

Great, you think to yourself, at least I’ll still be able to have my ex around when I’m missing them like crazy. That should help me get through this, you think, nodding in agreement at your ex’s suggestion that you keep the friendship alive.

But is it really such a good idea? Is the “friend zone” a place you want to be?

Probably not, to be perfectly honest. Being friends with your ex is actually almost always a bad idea and a recipe for additional (and unnecessary) heartache. In this article, I’ll explain what your ex actually wants when they suggest you should remain friends… and why it’s unwise in almost every scenario.

Why Being Friends Is So Tempting

Here’s the reason so many people get stuck in the “friend zone” after a breakup – and end up suffering the negative consequences: at first, it seems like a great idea. 

friend zone memeI mean, your ex is giving you an option that allows you to maintain contact with the person you’ve loved for some time and, in theory, this will allow you to move on gently and slowly without the intense feelings of loneliness that often accompany a breakup.

After all, if you can slowly wean yourself off those romantic feelings rather than going “cold turkey” and shutting down all contact with your ex, isn’t that a better option?

The problem is that even though it often seems like a perfect compromise, being friends usually provides very little comfort and actually makes the process of moving on longer and more difficult – and complicated – than it needs to be.

So even though it may sound like a brilliant idea at first, entering into the “friend zone” with your ex is actually just going to make things more painful and more drawn out.

Scenario #1:  You’re Done with Your Ex & Want to Move On…

If you’re the one who initiated the breakup, or if you’ve come to realize that a permanent separation from your ex is wise, then being “friends” is unwise for one simple reason: it will cause at least one of you unnecessary emotional turmoil and heartache that can be avoided.

Think about it this way: your relationship is over, and among other things you hope to move on and begin a new love life with someone else. Whether or not that happens immediately doesn’t really change things, because the best way to move on from someone is to completely remove them from your life.

Which of the following options is going to be less painful and less difficult to handle:

  1. You let your ex go his or her own way and do your best to avoid learning what they are up to, who they’re dating, etc.
  2. You actively communicate with your ex and constantly remind yourself of what used to be between you. You learn about their new romantic partners, hear about their sexual escapades, etc.

Obviously the former option will make the entire breakup process less painful on an emotional level, and will help you move on more quickly. By keeping your ex in your life as a friend, you’re basically allowing yourself to constantly be tempted by reminding yourself of the past… and you’re also opening yourself up to potentially painful knowledge about your ex’s new love life.

In other words, if you want to survive the breakup and move on as quickly as possible, entering the “friend zone” with your ex is pretty much always counterproductive.

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Scenario #2:  You Want to Get Back Together with Your Ex

If the breakup with your ex happened against your will and you’re trying to get back together with them, then “friendship” is even worse.

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To begin with, you’ll face all the problems I mentioned above: the experience will be more painful and it will take longer for you to get over your ex.

Even though a significant portion of relationships can be salvaged, some breakups will be permanent no matter how hard you try to reverse them. So if you happen to fall into this category, then all you’re achieving by agreeing to be friends with your ex after the breakup is increasing your emotional suffering and making the process of moving on more difficult than it needs to be.

There are a few other huge problems with agreeing to be friends with your ex if you want to win them back:

  • It won’t give them a chance to develop feelings of nostalgia and to miss you as much as if you aren’t around. As I explained in my article on how to get your ex back, one of the key ingredients to repairing a relationship is allowing enough time to pass that your ex begins to miss you like crazy. How do you make someone miss you? Simple: disappear from their life suddenly and completely, shutting down all lines of communication. By maintaining a friendship with your ex, it’s impossible to really effectively disappear from their radar and therefore for them miss you.
  • It gives complete control of the situation to your ex. Another key to winning back your ex is to make it clear that you are still equals, even if they decided to break up with you. You need to make it known that you’re not a pushover and that if your ex isn’t interested in a romantic relationship, then they’re cut from your life altogether.
  • You serve as a “safety net” for your ex while they look for someone new.  Do you want to be your ex’s confidante while they tell you about their new lover(s)? Do you want to be the backup quarterback in case things don’t work out with the new romance they’re pursing? Of course not. You have to make it absolutely clear to your ex that if they choose to break up with you, they’re on their own and they can’t come running back to you if they find the single life less fun than they’d imagined it would be. By stating in no uncertain terms that you’re not going to be sticking around when your ex decides to bail on your relationship, you’re telling them that you’re not wiling to be their “plan b”; you have dignity and pride and are worth being someone’s “number 1”.

Add those things together and the supposed “advantages” to being friends with your ex after a breakup seem much less appealing. In reality, there really isn’t any scenario in which being friends after a breakup (at least for the first few months) is a good idea.

How to Say No to the Friend Zone

If I’ve managed to convince you that being friends with your ex is an awful idea, then you may be wondering how to go about saying no to your ex. That can be especially tricky if you’re looking for a way to win them back and start fresh with your them in the future.

texting ex boyfriendI recommend saying something like, “I don’t think it’s a good idea for either of us to be friends right now. I was interested in being your [boyfriend/girlfriend] but I don’t really think being friends is going to be good for either of us. No hard feelings, though, and I wish you all the best.”

Saying that makes a clear stand on the issue without slinging any mud or closing the door to a possible future reconciliation. You want to make sure there’s no ambiguity or confusion over the issue, but you also want to be polite and diplomatic so as not to start any unnecessary conflicts.

If you’ve already agreed to being friends with your ex and you need help escaping the “friend zone,” I recommend you head over to my website and watch the free video that I’ve posted there. It will give you some more advice on how to proceed with your ex and how to escape the friend zone without shutting them out of your life permanently.

It’s often difficult to handle your ex when they want to be friends and you want to be lovers, and you need to tread carefully. That’s why I dedicated an entire section of my Ex Factor program to this topic, and I often help folks get through their unique situations.

Again, here’s a link to my website where you can claim a copy of my program (backed by a 100% money-back guarantee of course!) and sign up for my free email course.

Best of luck avoiding the dreaded “friend zone” – I welcome any questions or comments, so please feel free to share your thoughts in the comments section at the bottom of this page.

About Brad Browning

Brad Browning, BA, is the world’s premiere breakup & marriage coach. Brad Browning’s The Ex Factor Guide, a program that teaches men and women how to win back their ex lovers, has sold thousands of copies worldwide. Brad has also released a similar program called Mend The Marriage that teaches married couples how to revitalize the spark, romance, and desire that’s been long forgotten. To top it all off, Brad’s YouTube channel has over 50 thousand subscribers and almost 7 million views, making his videos the most-watched and liked videos on YouTube!

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John
John
6 days 23 hours ago
Hi. My ex initiated the breakup and I understand why she chose to do so. We had small arguments that led to one big one while I was away on vacation and she blew up because she told me that she bottled up feelings about the arguments because she was afraid of how I would react. We’re in the part of our lives where long distance was the only option so she realized that there’s no point to keep trying in the relationship since we don’t have time. But, she told me that after we both work on ourselves, she wants to try again because she was done with the relationship but not done with me. She said she feels all the same feelings as I do but she was just done trying relationship wise. I’ve been giving her time since we broke up but I always want to talk… Read more »
Liah
Liah
8 days 9 hours ago
Hello Brad, I’ve been watching you videos recently. On September, my 30 no contact will end and I feel like, I don’t know what to do next. My boyfriend broke up with me last July 22, 2016. He said that he didn’t love me anymore and he sees me as a friend only. We were together for 3 years and 7 months, I’m not sure if the 7 months, he still loves me o pretended that he loves me. Our anniversary is Dec 15 which is my birthday, he said that he still love me during that period, we fought last march because I teased him on his crush before, he broke up with me because of that and I apologized to him and begged to stay. He stayed and we had many family bonding in the next months. He helped me to apply for the scholarship so we can… Read more »
Lorna
Lorna
16 days 10 hours ago
Hi Brad, Me and my ex were together for about 2 years overseas. Things didn’t work out and I moved back home for a fresh start. He then came with his family for a visit and gave me all the signals that perhaps we would get back together. As the holiday ended, I left the ball in his court and decided to see if he wanted to give things another shot. I gave him weeks and finally decided to ask him what was going on because it set me back a lot.. waiting and wondering. Anyway, he decided that we should move on. I was shocked and hurt but I decided that was okay and was very pleasant in my response. I tried this friendship idea for months and it only brought me back to square one, so i told him i didn’t want to be friends and we should… Read more »
trice
trice
19 days 4 hours ago

Hello me and my ex husband have been trying to make things work one min he wants to be in an relationship with me and the next me he do not, and now he want to be friends. Yes I love him but he can not stop with this confused mess I have to move on with my life and be happy. What should I do at this time?

Anthony
Anthony
21 days 4 hours ago
My girlfriend and I broke up about 4 weeks ago. I have been in NC for about 3 weeks. She called me the perfect boyfriend and she said that I am everything she wants in a boyfriend. She said that I am the boyfriend she deserves, however she feels like something is missing. She doesn’t know what that something is but felt like she needed to end things because of this. She told me she doesn’t want to lose me out of her life and considers me her best friend… I told her she doesn’t get the best of both worlds and left. Since then she has invited me out once and even a invite over to her house to watch a movie, which we all know what that was meant to be, but I am here asking you what she means by somethings missing?? She doesn’t know what that… Read more »
Lynn
Lynn
25 days 6 hours ago
Hey Brad, I need advice on my situation so here it goes. My ex and I are both 32 years old and have been broken up for about 9 months now. He ended the relationship back in October of 2015, the day after my birthday. We celebrated it with a nice dinner and boom, I get a text message the next day saying he needed some space. I followed through with the NC(no contact rule) and focused on me. Joined a gym/all women bootcamp, lost 10 lbs, restarted a few businesses I’d talked about when he and I were together, and spent more time with family/friends. On Mothers Day I received a “Happy Mothers Day” text from him. I replied with a simple “Thank You.” And left it at that. Fast forward a few months later I sent the famous “accidental but intentional” text which opened up a short convo… Read more »
Katia
Katia
29 days 12 hours ago
Hi Brad, I have been doing no contact with my ex for over 30 days. he dumped me by text the last Tuesday in June, saying that he was feeling low,he wasn’t “boyfriend material” and it wasn’t fair on me. (I know this is bull and its about attraction). The only communication I have had with him since then was a text back to him a day or so later to say I was sorry he’d been feeling low, and that I felt devastated, but if he needed to talk I could listen. I didn’t expect or get a reply, and I have left him alone since then. I haven’t found the no contact particularly difficult because I have no idea what to say to him. In fact the idea of texting him anything to just be ignored or rejected is terrifying to me, but then so is the idea… Read more »
Joni
Joni
1 month 1 day ago
Hey Brad , I know this is not right what I am about to ask but here goes … My ex just COLD TURKEY faded away from me .. Here is my story .. We have been together for 10 years .. Not a normal relationship but a very close one ! However … Here is the awful part .. We are BOTH married ! About a year ago he left his wife .. For only about 3 months both filed for divorce . But days before it was final he went back because he said he missed his two kids that are 6 & 4 . Yes he had two kids with her because they have never gotten along and she is very needy & trapped him with the kids . When he got back together with her about a year ago he admitted to her about us …… Read more »
Anton
Anton
1 month 4 days ago
Hey Brad, greetings from Austria. Me and my Ex broke up exactly 2 Months and 2 days ago, i wrote to her some apology and love letters and after 3 Weeks she started replying and unblocked me. One day i stood in front of her house (not the first time) because i saw her beeing at home whilst driving past it. She embraced me and hugged me. Time went on and she commited that she still loved me but isnt sure if she wants me back. (I have changed, dramatically, just for her). Time passed and we slowly grew together again. Since 3 Weeks everything is nearly perfect and we have a perfect “friendship +”. But that isnt my goal and our goal to get back together faded from her side. Yesterday we talked (a lot) and she still isnt ready for a relationship with me again, but is willing… Read more »
Sia
Sia
1 month 4 days ago

Hey brad..I was dating this guy for past three years we were very close but it was always on and off for him now he decided to break up saying he wants to be single I am not sure if he is dating someone but there might be possibilities .suggest how should I get him back

Al Dayton
Al Dayton
1 month 6 days ago

Hello Brad. I’ve bought your program & have read it many times. Its great. My question is this. Its been 3 months since she left me. My ex hasn’t changed her address so she still gets her mail here. Shes never given back my key. Her & I text everyday & its about 50/50 on who starts it. We see eachother once about every 2 weeks & we have fun. She is seeing someone new but almost never mentions him. Should I take these as good signs? Thank you.

Rodney
Rodney
1 month 9 days ago

Hey brad
So me and my girlfriend broke up a month ago and it was because she fell out. She stop being in love with me and I tried everything to get her back flowers candy even tried to be her friend going to see her and fought for our relationship but nothing. She said she wanted to be friend but that’s not even working out and she’s already talking to another people. It’s seem no matter what I do she wants nothing to do with me and I don’t know what to do anymore. When I saw her for the last time we spoke but I was still in love and she just saw me as her friend but when we got on the train we acted like the past acted like a couple and even give a few kisses but still nothing so…What should I do?

Yulonda Bland
Yulonda Bland
1 month 9 days ago

So Brad what would be the best one for same sex ex’s

Jono
Jono
1 month 11 days ago
Hey Brad, So my girlfriend (of 5 years) and I broke up in March but have a long lease on our rental so we’ve been persevering with living with one another. For all intents and purposes, the breakup was amicable and came down to the cliche “i love you but i’m not in love with you any more” line *cue heart stabbing feeling*. Over the next couple of months i nailed the ‘no contact despite living with one another still’ by being courteous and nice, but noticeably distant and not a support mechanism for her, and, at the beginning of June (after her flirting and being subtlety tactile for a couple of weeks) we ended up having a very close intimate weekend together when she jumped on me, kissed me passionately and admitted she’d wanted to do it for a couple of weeks. She was impressed that i’d gone away… Read more »
Marco
Marco
1 month 13 days ago

Hey Brad

Me and my Girlfreind Broke up 2 weeks ago, we broke up because we had a rough month (we were together since 5 months) and i feel like i pushed her into this by asking her frequently if she still wants to go on i demanded a awnser although she said she doesnt know until she said she doesnt want to continue, but she still loved me. since then we met twice and even hugged us and kissed but she always says she cant do it anymore… what should i do?

sorry for my bad english, english is not my motherstounge.

Shannon
Shannon
1 month 13 days ago

Me and my ex were together a year and a half but had an on and off relationship, due to him dealing with a lot of family problems. We have been broken up nearly 6 weeks now and I have started the no contact rule again, after breaking it the first time (it has now been 2 weeks). He moved on 2 weeks after we broke up but the relationship only lasted about a week. I’m wondering do I have a chance of getting back with him, or is it a lost cause.

Joseph
Joseph
1 month 15 days ago

Hey Brad…
We had dated with her back in campus and after campus we stayed for 8 months in the house and had even decided to get married by end of this year.Unfortunately we are of different tribes and her family lives far from our town.On April she had to attend her brother’s wedding.To cut the story short,she started cutting communications and complained about distance and that we are of different tribes and her relatives were against intermarriage,she later texted me that she had cheated on me.since then we’ve not had any communications and I still feel I have feelings for her.Can I still win her back.

Sarah
Sarah
1 month 16 days ago
My ex and I dated for 8 years. 3 years ago I moved away for a job in which he was supportive and things were good. We discussed marriage and kids and began planning our future. Just a year ago he moved 2 states away for a job and that put us really in a long distant relationship. Things were fine and he wanted me to move with him but finding a job wasn’t easy and I refused to move without a job. I also didn’t want to move without him committing to me. After 8 years I felt that for a move that grand I needed full commitment to quit my job and move. Unfortunately about 2 months ago he told me, over the phone, that he wasnt “100% in it anymore” and felt that we should “breakup for now” . Of course my heart dropped and I was… Read more »
Cody
Cody
1 month 19 days ago

What if the relationship ended badly where they have set out to say you are the biggest regret in their life and never loved you. That the entire time they were living a lie? You cut the communication off and have not spoke one word to them for a month. However during that duration of no contact you open a door to where you work and she is standing right there…hardest part is walking away and still not saying a word nor acknowledging that you saw them. I still have not spoken to her and have been staying off radar for about two weeks now. Seems that she doesn’t really care and probably never did. Interesting enough I’ve decided to make better changes in my life and get rid of all the negative situations and memories. I hope something good comes of this.

Ankit Shaw
Ankit Shaw
1 month 20 days ago
I am from India.. She and I both studied in the same collage. I am 20 yrs and she is 19. 3 months before she said that she doesn’t feel the way i did for her. and she said that she is confused in the relationship with me.. i was just shocked .and in the fear of loosing her i told her to be friends. From there on we speak to each other but i persuaded her many times to forget everything and give us a second chance but she did not agree .. From last two week we have holidays i asked her out many times and me atleast as friends but she makes excuse and didn’t agree. but i still talk to her on phone and msgs and she also talked but not as she does earlier. i want her back badly… nd after watching your videos i… Read more »
Frances
Frances
1 month 22 days ago

Hello Brad. I dated my ex for only 4 months before he dumped me. I tried talking to him after two weeks but he said again that we shouldn’t be together. I started the NC a week ago, and I found out that not only he erased me from everywhere but also he is into looking for somebody to date. How are my chances here? In two weeks it’ll be two months since we broke up already. Thanks

Max
Max
1 month 22 days ago

Hello, my ex broke up with me the first time as a result of parental acceptance, I applied the no contact rule and she came back. Again about 3 weeks ago, she broke up with me the second time still on the issue of parental acceptance but with the twist that there is a guy that has been wooing her and her family accepts him. I don’t know if that is true or she is using this excuse to see if she can break free from our closeness because every time she sees me I can see her eyes get misty. I love her greatly. I don’t know if she has moved on permanently.

Noe Fernandez
Noe Fernandez
1 month 23 days ago

Hey Brad
So a while ago my girlfriend broke up with me and she flung the “we’ll still.be friends though” option along with a written apology letter. I’ve tried everything i could to get her off my back but honestly i reached my breaking point and said some stuff i shouldn’t of said. Now i honestly don’t know what to do because as much as i hate her for what shes done, i still have some sort of emotional attachment towards her

HANNAH
HANNAH
1 month 25 days ago
Hi Brad, My boyfriend broke up with me about a week ago and we’ve exchanged a few messages because we were going to go to an event together with friends exactly one month from now. I asked if we could be friends and he said he’d love that but after reading this, I don’t think it would be a good idea since I’m trying to get him back. Ever since the breakup I’ve been missing him everyday and hoping he would come crawling back to me, is there still a chance for that and what do I need to do? What would be the best possible way to get him back and make him miss me? I’m sorry I can’t afford your ex factor system but I would just like some tips and advice please. If it helps we went out for 10 months and he said he broke up… Read more »
SAM
SAM
1 month 29 days ago

Hi,
A month ago my girlfriend of 5 months told me out of the blue that she loves me very much but not in love with me.
We just came back from a romantic vecation, she planned for us to move in together and other plans for the future and 2 days later she dropped the bomb.

Since then i was in no contact.
Yesterday i sent her a message about a mutual place that made me think of her.
We exchanged a couple of text and then i stopped.
Do we have a chance?

Christina M
Christina M
2 months 3 days ago
Hi Brad! My boyfriend dumped me more than a week ago after a 1 year and 8 months relationship ,and I’m confused if he still wants to work things out in the future. He told me he’s been hiding the unhappiness for a month and a half, and wants to be friends with me. But I put my foot down for him to decide to either slowly work things out in the relationship or no relation at all. of course he didn’t like the options and told me “i can’t let you do that”(for no contact at all option). He is not letting go of the past where I made mistakes, and this convinved me to believe that he mostly views me in a negative perspective ..I’ve been giving him time right now, but I just don’t know if that’s enough for him to realize that I’m giving effort for… Read more »
specious
specious
2 months 5 days ago

Hey brad it’s specious,I and my boy friend broke up 3months ago,I want to go back with him but I have already begged and pleaded after all he asked me to be friends which I don’t want.I really want The ex factor guide but my country is not listed there while ordering.more information please.

Kort
Kort
2 months 6 days ago

Took the quiz looked at all the videos and still don’t feel there is any hope . I’m 4 months pregnant my ex wants nothing to do with me he avoids me and now is tellin me to get rid of the baby and that he does not want to deal with me anymore . No cheating the problem was us not always seeing eye to eye . Applied your strategies and seems like he is just fine with me having no contact I’m heart broken help

Vidy
Vidy
2 months 7 days ago
Hi brad!.This is vidy from singapore. i recently got dumped by my girlfriend of 8 months. We were going through a long distance relationship for 6 months and in that time period ive visited her for 2 weeks and lived with her.She even said it was the best 2 weeks of her life, Of late we recently i wasant doing well due to stress from school and family issues and i took out my anger and frustration on her,hence making her feel used and taken advantage of,,Those are the words she said,it came to a point that she told me that our LDR isnt working out and then she does not love me anymore and that the spark had just disappeared.I begged and pleaded so much, making myself look vulnerable weak and most importantly unattractive, i annoyed her with phone calls and long text messages and promised id change but… Read more »
Mathew
Mathew
2 months 11 days ago
Hi brad , Am mathew here . I have brought ur ex factor book , and it’s given me a hope of working towards my ex . Me and my ex broke up last month . She is the one who ended up the relationship. Since the break up . I had tried going through the no contact phase . But my ex kept contacting me at times with regards to our finances . She still holds my credit card . So she keeps messaging me on those regards . But, my replies were very short and I dint reply that fast . I usually take 3 hours to reply to her messages . This coming week , it would be a month after the break up . She is really cold on me . I really don’t know how make it work with her . We had a terrible… Read more »
Bulu Bhargava
Bulu Bhargava
2 months 13 days ago

I’ve seen almost all the videos you’ve posted about the do’s and dont’s of being friends and all. I’ve started the “No contact” phase. but can you possibly address what to do incase of the situations when the Ex msgs back on social apps like Snapchat? When they post a photo or privately respond to you to get a reaction?

Derek
Derek
2 months 16 days ago

Sup Brad,my girlfriend broke up with me 4 days ago and we have been dating for almost 6 months. We fight a lot and we actually broke up before about the same thing but this time she says she’s ending it for sure but i am scared because I really don’t want to lose her.

Sophia
Sophia
2 months 17 days ago
Hi Brad, I recently purchased your book, just to find out that it doesn’t apply to my situation with my ex. I have no idea how to use all the tactics you mention in the book when my ex boyfriend and I still live together and we have a 2 month old baby. I have no family around to help with the baby so I have to be home all day everyday to take care of her, giving me no time to socialize. He is basically gone all day, only comes home late at night to sleep and leaves early in the morning. We don’t even sleep in the same room anymore. We hardly ever talk to each other, and when we do, it’s only about the baby. He’s been living his separate life for a few months now. He says he’s just here for the baby, and tells me… Read more »
Ni M.
Ni M.
2 months 18 days ago
Hi Brad, My boyfriend broke up with me recently after 2 month dating, saying he didn’t see a future of us together and that he was sorry he wasn’t ready for relationship (which I think it’s because he’s still hurt from his last relationship despite having rebounds as he kept denying he’s hurt but always indirectly mentioned it). He was the one to initiate a 2-month no contact for me to calm down and for both “to have some time”. I came to his house begged, pleaded and even called him midnight the day we broke up. We hangout with the same friends group (we’re all really closed) and it’s uncomfortable for me seeing this going on. I haven’t talked to him and tried to avoid seeing him since the break up. What should I do now? He blocked me on all social media platform and when he unblocked, I… Read more »
Isma khan
Isma khan
2 months 19 days ago

Hi brad i was in a long distance relationship.. On 7th april we had a fight and he broke off with me he said he thinks we cant stay with eachother.. After that everything was going ok we were chatting on whats app..one day i told him i still have feelings for him and i want him back i begged him but he dint listen..i begged him thrice in a month.. He rejected everytime.. Now we dont talk at all..we r on whats app but dont even chat its been 25days that we dint chat nor talk.. He was a regular user of whats app now he comes online only once or twice in a day..what does it mean.. What should i do.. Any hope for me?

Tally
Tally
2 months 21 days ago
Hi Brad, My boyfriend and I lived together, we’re young, in college, I’m 21 and he’s 23. We had another roommate, a male friend of both his and mine. We bickered and argued after 6 months of being really great together, so much that I initially decided to end things. In my emotional rage I understood I didn’t want to be done, so we got back together. Three weeks after trying to “fix things” he ended it with me. Once he ended things, I was in desperation mode. Now, three weeks later- I purchased your book and feel one hundred times better. It’s the perfect set-up, the summer away from each other (we live an hour and a half away), he is living somewhere new next semester and he states that breaking up is beneficial for coming back together better and stronger. I’ve done 6 days no contact and already… Read more »
Dan
Dan
2 months 22 days ago

Brad, I did three weeks of no contact after my break up, and she eventually booty called me and we had sex. There was still an obvious connection. However, now there’s only intermittent communication (a text or two every other day), but no signs of getting back together or hanging out again anytime soon. She’s obviously confused. Do I go back to no contact or do something different?

Claire
Claire
3 months 4 hours ago

What do you do in a situation where you have 2 kids together and want to get your husband back? What’s the best approach on that dilemma?

Olivia
Olivia
3 months 1 day ago
Hey Brad! My boyfriend and I just broke up 2 weeks ago, and he initiated it. After a crash of initial emotions I started to be ok and started trying to be his friend (for example a little while back he was ranting to our friend group and I later messaged him saying he could talk to me if he needed). I’ve been trying to follow the no contact rule because I know that’s the first step to getting him back, but we have the exact same friend group so it’s really awkward whenever we want to talk or hang out with our friends. In our relationship we were best friends and we both saw a future together until things got rocky. I started to push him away and play hard to get so he started not put as much effort into the relationship, then we got busy and it… Read more »
Howard
Howard
3 months 1 day ago
Hi Brad, my girlfriend of four months has just offered to just be friends. Our relationship developed very quickly, sexually, I moved in (not the best idea I know) for around two months. A month ago she started showing less intimacy, and said it was maybe because we saw each other too much, and she had stress at work. She said I feel more like a family member to her, and that she didn’t feel enough space. I went home after that and started coming over to her place less, trying to give her space. A few days ago she broke up, asking if we could be just friends. She said (to me) that there was nothing wrong with me, I was very considerate, giving her space. She just didn’t feel attracted to me anymore. Again, she mentioned I feel like a family member. I was really sad, this was… Read more »
Madalin Pinzaru
Madalin Pinzaru
3 months 3 days ago
Hello. My situation is kind of complicate… so…i have been together with my ex-girlfriend for almost 3 years. In april i broke up with her so that she could concentrate on learning for medical university admitance exam ( i choosed to break up because she asked for a break because she felt always guilty for our little arguments and couldn’t concentrate on studying) i thought that breaking up for the moment would be a good idea. I didn’t left her for someone else or because i didn’t love her anymore. After we broke up she kinda got attached to a guy in her class and she also got to the point where they had sex( she told me about this and i was pretty mad at her because i felt that she disappointed me *when i broke up with her i didn’t tell the real reason,i told her that i… Read more »
Raju
Raju
3 months 4 days ago
Hi Brad, Me and my girlfriend loved each other 5 years back. she was ready to do anything for me. I cheated on her and went with other girl.. The other girl dumped me and I came back to my ex and asked my gf to marry me.. but she refused and stated that she cannot be a second option for me and lost trust on me. I tried to convince her, begged, pleaded nothing worked out. This happened 3 years back. And we separated again. Again she came speaking to me 2 years back and things were normal and she was friendly to me. After few months I spoke about having a relationship (marriage). she started yelling at me and left me. And now 4 months before she came speaking to me. She use to say that sometimes she thinks of having a life with me but the thoughts… Read more »
Donna
Donna
3 months 6 days ago

What do u suggest when the break up is fairly mutual because I want kids and he doesn’t want any more (his kids are grown). I dumped him first over a yr ago and this time he dumped me…is there any hope for our situation? We both really want to be together and the the last time we got back together he wanted to be more open minded about kids….then decided he couldn’t do it after all n dumped me….there just doesn’t seem to be a happy ending to this tragic romance. Please help

Enrique
Enrique
3 months 8 days ago

Hi brad me and my ex are broken up for a month i agreed in being just friends with her but everytime we meet she always treat like something i don’t know? shes being awkward to but for me i’m just acting being a friend should i be give her space but i have less than 2 days before she goes down. what should i do brad help.

danish supariwala
danish supariwala
3 months 10 days ago

Hey brad i had a breakup with my girlfriend 3 months ago she wanted space bt i dint gave her and the things wer getting spoiled each and evry day we still meet talk in very friendly manner during this phase she use to be with a guy and they both have got feelings for each other and she tld me clearly tht i cn be a friend in her life thats it she tlks to tht guy every night go out with him alone and treats me as a waste i dont know what to do now please help me out we had 3 years relationship we study in same colg as well please help me out

Wanda
Wanda
3 months 11 days ago

Hi how do you handle it when you want to move on and you work together?

Natasha
Natasha
3 months 12 days ago

I can’t find the link you published here to how to get a private session with you. Can you resend it pls?

Lisa
Lisa
3 months 17 days ago

Hey brad , I ended U.S. and regretted it , I told him so and he said , I have feelings for you , but not strong enough , he has also finished us and come back twice in a year .. He also wants to stay friends, should I give up?

prabha
prabha
3 months 17 days ago

hey brad
well i m already applyying no contact rule before i saw your video.but not completely.me and my ex are not added in each others fb account but he keep texting me there but i never reply.ut when he text me on phone sometimes i reply and sometimes i keep my phone in switch off mode for a week .my ex wants me back as his gf but i want to marry him i donot want to be his gf .i love him a lot.i really donot know howto handle him.

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