6 Secrets Your Ex Is Hiding From You
Feel like your ex is keeping something from you?
It’s more common than you think.
Here are the six secrets that your ex may be hiding from you.
Odds are they’re hiding at least one of these and I’ll tell you why.
Secrets Your Ex Is Hiding From You
Before I begin, though, let me just clarify one thing: I’m not suggesting that your ex is a bad person or that you should be upset at them for keeping secrets.
In fact, all 6 of the common things your ex will lie about are completely natural and understandable and sometimes they happen subconsciously, so your ex might not even realize that they’re keeping secrets from you.
So, I don’t think it’s fair to be angry at your ex for hiding any of these things from you, and I think most of us would do the same thing if the roles were reversed.
Secret #1 – They’re not confident about the decision to break up.
Just because your ex decided they wanted to break up with you doesn’t mean they’re certain that they’ve made the right decision. If you’ve ever dumped someone, you probably know what I’m talking about: it’s not an easy decision, and there’s almost no chance that your ex is 100% confident that breaking up was the right call.
They may have weighed the pros and cons many times before actually breaking the news to you, and decided that going your separate ways is the “right” thing to do… but that definitely doesn’t mean they’re sure about that decision.
In 90% of situations, your ex is going to be secretly hiding their own anxieties about breaking up:
- Was it the right decision?
- Will they live to regret it down the road?
- Will they ever be able to find someone like you again?
Simply put, your ex is going to be worried — at least on some level — that they’ve made the wrong choice by breaking up. They won’t likely admit it to you, and may sound 100% certain that the breakup is final, but usually they’re still internally conflicted to some extent.
Secret #2 – Your ex wasn’t fully honest when they told you WHY they wanted to break up.
It’s very common thing for an ex to lie about why they wanted to break up… or, at the very least, only tell you part of the truth.
Most of the time, your ex will give you some generic reasons why they wanted to break up.
They’ll say things like…
- “I am just too busy with school for a serious relationship.”
- “I just need some time to decide what I want.”
- “We don’t share any common interests.”
Typically, these things will actually just be a small part of their decision, or even a flat-out lie. The real reasons behind a breakup are often more hurtful.
See, your ex is going to feel like they need to give you some kind of explanation as to why the relationship has end… but they also don’t want to hurt your feelings by telling you the full truth.
For example, maybe they’re not as attracted to you anymore because you recently gained some weight… or maybe they found someone new that they’re falling for.
Do you really think your ex is going to tell you that kind of thing, knowing how much it would hurt your feelings?
Instead, they’ll come up with some other reason that’s less hurtful, like the old classic “it’s not you, it’s me” excuse.
What does this mean for you, know that your ex probably lied or withheld part of the truth? Well, it just means you should be skeptical about your ex’s explanation for the breakup, and avoid becoming overly fixated on whatever your ex said was the reason they wanted to end things.
Secret #3 – Your ex is scared that you’ll move on quickly.
Your ex will never admit this, but it’s very likely that they don’t want you to move on and get over the breakup quickly.
Sometimes this is a subconscious feeling in the back of their mind, but it’s natural for most people to want their ex to stick around and be available as a “backup plan” in case they decide that breaking up was too painful or the wrong decision.
If it looks like you’re moving on quickly from the breakup, your ex will fear that their backup plan is slipping away, and that the breakup may be permanent… and, as I already mentioned, your ex probably still isn’t fully sure that breaking up was the right choice.
This is why it’s so important to give the impression that you’re moving on from the breakup and thriving without your ex around.
By making your ex think that you’re getting over them and quickly moving on with life, they’ll be under real pressure to decide if they are willing to let you go forever… or whether they should take you back while that option is still available to them.
Secret #4 – Your ex feels guilty for hurting you.
This one is pretty simple. Unless your relationship with this person was so toxic and broken that they truly hate your guts, your ex WILL feel bad that they had to hurt your feelings.
They know how painful being dumped can be, and they still care about you to some extent, so breaking your heart is going to make them feel very guilty.
In fact, breaking up with you was probably one of the most difficult things they’ve ever done.
Secret #5 – At times, your ex probably misses you and wishes they could have you back.
As I’ve already explained, breaking up is hard for both people involved. Your ex being the one to initiate the breakup doesn’t really mean they’re going to be any less heartbroken than you are. In fact, sometimes the heartache can be even worse for the “dumper” than for the person being dumped.
That means your ex isn’t going to have an easy ride after the breakup, either. They’ll cry, they’ll feel lonely, and they’ll miss you like crazy… especially in the first few weeks after breaking up.
There will definitely be times where your ex desperately wishes they could make the pain go away by calling you up and taking you back. There will be times they question their decision to end things. And there will be times they want nothing more than to be in your arms again.
Now, often your ex will be able to overpower those emotions with logic. They’ll think back to the underlying problems that led to them wanting to break up, and they’ll resist the urge to call you and take you back by reminding themselves that it was “the right thing to do in the long run”.
Your ex’s friends and family will likely try to talk them out of taking you back, reminding them of the reasons they wanted to break up in the first place.
One of the key components of my Ex Factor program is designed specifically to make your ex forget about those “logical reasons” for breaking up, and miss you so badly that they simply can’t help but ask you to take them back. Watch my full tutorial video now to learn the specific techniques you need to use to overcome your ex’s logical reasons for the breakup and make them desperate to take you back.
Secret #6 – Your ex is very curious about what you’ve been up to since the breakup.
If you take my advice and employ a period of No Contact, then your ex is going to quickly lose touch with what’s happening in your life. They’ll know basically nothing about what you’ve been doing since the breakup, and that’s going to make them very curious.
They’ll wonder how much heartache you’re feeling, whether you’re starting to move on, and whether you’ve been seeing any one new. In fact, at some point during No Contact, your ex will probably reach out to see how you’re doing and ask why you’ve suddenly stopped reaching out to them.
They’ll also probably stalk you on social media and ask mutual friends about you, too. The less they know about your life since the breakup, the more curious they’re going to be.
My advice, if you’re trying to get back together, is to take advantage of your ex’s curiosity.
Don’t give them any details unless you have to… just keep them guessing. If you’re feeling especially devious, you can even drop hints that suggest you might be dating again… for example, you could mention you “took a friend to dinner last night”, but not tell your ex who the friend was or whether it was really a date.
Any sense of mystery and intrigue is going to help your cause, and will give your ex a reason to contact you or agree to hang out with you in person. If you can make your ex jealous, you’re one step closer to getting them back.
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