My name is Yasmine and I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about two years. I think we have a great relationship. However, suddenly, he’s stopped wanting to make out with me. He’s even been wanting to have sex with me less and less.
I have no idea what to do! I feel like he’s slipping further and further away from me. I feel like he’s even more attracted to girls outside of our relationship, especially at his work.
Is there anything I can do to make him more attracted to me?
Rio De Janeiro, Brazil”
If your boyfriend is losing attraction for you, this can be a red flag.
I know this is something you probably don’t want to hear, but it’s the truth. That doesn’t mean it can’t be fixed. However, if your boyfriend is losing sexual interest in you, it means that he might possibly be into another woman.
This is what I like to call “Sexual Fixation.”
Right now, it’s possible that he’s sexually fixated on somebody else. It’s either that, or he’s becoming unsatisfied with your relationship altogether.
So how can you salvage this situation? Well, obviously if something doesn’t happen sooner or later, you’re going to have to confront him about your problem. You’re going to have to communicate to him that something is wrong and it needs to be addressed. But not after you’ve tried a few things:
1. Try Being More Sexual
Sometimes people get complacent in relationships. You need to spice things up sometimes. Buy some sexy lingerie or give him the best blowjob of his life.
2. Do Something Fun and Exciting
Plan a trip with him. Or, go out more and go do a fun activity together. Sometimes it takes a little bit of fun to rejuvenate what should already be there.
3. Try Giving Him Some Space
Maybe you’re smothering him. Try backing off a little. Give him some time with his guy friends or you go out with some girlfriends.
4. Finally, Confront Him About It
Sex isn’t everything in a relationship, but it’s a huge part. If the sex isn’t going, then everything else just seems to go downhill. You need to confront him about the situation and try and find a solution.
Unfortunately, if things really don’t work out, then you’re probably best breaking up. I know this isn’t something you want to do, but if there’s something fundamentally wrong with your relationship together, it’s best if you call it quits now rather than later!
Hopefully you two figure out something positive from this.